Mums going for a brain scan today...

[Aquestiontoponder]

Hi all,
I just wondered if anyone has any knowledge/experience please as I'm feeling anxious.

My mum is having a head CT this morning under the 2 week wait - well she hasn't said this but got an appointment within a week. I'm just wondering if something was found, would they tell her today. I know the scan is usually looked at my specialists etc but if there was something obvious, would she be made aware today?

I'm really worried about her. It's made worse by the fact she is someone who doesn't want to tell my brother or I anything because she doesn't want to worry us. She was in hospital a few weeks ago because she was vomiting for days and really poorly, but has been home 3 weeks and now has this scan that she says the GP ordered. Things she says have been inconsistent and it's making me more concerned.

She won't be told the results today, certainly not by the radiographers, it should be reported on as an urgent, so hopefully it won't be too long to wait.

Hope she's ok , does she still have the symptoms?

@Tubestrike the problem is that I don't know her symptoms or trust she's been honest with me.

Basically around 6 weeks ago she was vomitting for a few days. GP sent her to hospital. She was really weak, fast heart rate has some deficiencies- although all expected really as she hadn't eaten for a while and was being constantly sick. She spent 5 days in hospital. I couldn't get any sense out of what was actually wrong. She just said she didn't know. Apparently she had x-rays and loads of bloods in hospital. I asked what they were for, what the results were etc. She just evaded the question or didn't know.

She came out of hospital and was dizzy for a bit but has been eating normal. However, she looks pale, weak and has lost weight. However this could be linked to her having been so sick. Plus she's eating better at the moment. I asked her what the cause of the vomiting was and apparently drs had found a bug in her poo.

She then randomly had a day or 2 of vomiting 3 weeks after coming out of hospital. She spoke with the GP and said he asked her if she had a headache, which she did. So they then referred her for the head scan (she says). To me it doesn't sit right. If they found the cause of sickness to be a bug in her poo, then why would they link her having a headache and sickness as a potential tumour. I asked if she has regular headaches and she says no. I doubt the GP would refer for a head scan under the 2 week wait because she has sickness related to a bug and 1 headache (which would prob be quite normal if being sick and dehydrated).

I'm assuming there must have been other symptoms for the GP to refer. She says not.

It doesn't help that my partner is a doctor and I mentioned to him that she is going for a scan. He said "they probably think she has secondary cancer of the brain and the primary is in her hip" (she's awaiting a hip op but had hip pain for years). I mentioned she doesn't like to worry me and he said "well she needs to tell you soon because if it's terminal you'll need to go and care for her".
Is this a normal response? The relationship is tricky shall we say but he really upset me, especially as she hadn't even had the scan!
She's only 60 (only 5 years older than my partner). So it's not as if she's nearly the end of her lifespan!

I appreciate that you’re feeling anxious but you don’t actually know if she’s under a 2 week plan or whether this scan was booked in under a week.

She won’t get the results today. The findings will be sent back to her GP/whoever requested the scan. I hope your mum is ok but I think you need to have a conversation with her to let her know that her shutting you out is causing you to worry. But maybe she knows you overthink things and is deliberately not giving you information until there’s something to know?

Your DH sounds very cruel and nasty to say such awful things about your mum when she’s not under his care - he has no idea what her symptoms are or why she’s having a scan. Plenty of women have a bad hip without it being cancer! In fact I don’t know anyone who’s had hip cancer but plenty who’ve had hip replacements.

Talk to your mum!

I think your DP probably sees things a little differently to you and wasn’t trying to upset you. They are right though, if your DM is seriously ill, she does need to tell you.

Have you offered to go to the appointments with her?

Your husband is an arse for starters , and a shit doctor, I hope he's better with his patients.
I know how worried you must be but there's not much you can do until you get the results.

Well your partner is a delight isn't he?

Not the point of your thread but are sure there isn't more to life than a "tricky relationship"?

As for your mum, sadly you will only know what she decides to divulge. Can you offer to be there for the result?

But my partner knows nothing. He's not asked about her at all. He doesn't even know why she was in hospital. Literally the only information he knows is that she has a head scan. So why he is telling me she probably has secondary cancer and the primary is in her hip, to me seems very much many steps ahead.

In fact, when she initially went into hospital I asked if he'd have our child for the weekend so I could see her. He said yes and then later that day my 5 year old said "daddy says you're going to granny's at the weekend and I'm going with you. He said he's not babysitting me because he's going out with his friends". When asked, my partner confirmed he would not be looking after our son as promised, I was being awkward and he was not going to lose his £10 deposit he had paid for a meal with his friends. He hasn't even asked how my mum was and knew I was upset. She could have been dying for all he knew. An exaggeration but my point is, he has absolutely no idea.

Yes, I've offered to go. She's 100 miles away and I said I'd come down and take her to the appointment today. She said "don't be silly, I'm absolutely fine and there's nothing wrong with my brain" and step dad is taking her.

Thank you ❤️
I honestly feel he says things to be cruel. Obviously hip cancer is a possibility but my mum has been on the waiting list for 2 years for a hip operation. She actually should be having it before Christmas. So I'd expect her pain to be related to that. Her hip pain has been awful for years, if it was cancer I'm sure we'd know by now. I know it doesn't mean it's impossible, just that it's expected she has hip pain and attributed to the fact she's awaiting hip surgery.

The ‘she has had hip pain for years’ does not sound like cancer or at least not the most likely reason.

What sort of dr is dh? Not a very good one.

This was my thought! Obviously nobody knows exactly what's going on in their bodies but why is she having a hip replacement in a few months if they think it's cancer?! I know she recently got moved up the list because she's been suffering for years (already had the other hip done in her fifties). I'm assuming when she's seen the consultant, she's had occasional scans of her hip? I could be wrong though.

He's a GP...with no information about her health at all. I just feel he has said these things on purpose to make me feel worse. I don't expect him to lie/sugarcoat but to be discussing my mum being terminally ill and having secondary cancer before she's even had a scan and without having any knowledge of her health, just seems unnecessary. He just said it all so coldly and matter of fact. Then carried on talking at me for half an hour about his friends at the pub.

I’m so sorry @Aquestiontoponderwhat and absolute horror he is.

I don’t often say LTB but I think if it were me in your position, I would find it very difficult indeed to forgive his utter care for you at thus time.

At least you know where you stand with him. He gives £10 a higher priority.

OP, how is your mum?