Dh was just mean. Feeling blue

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I think im just having an off week i just feel a bit blue. Keep crying in private.

I am nearly 28. Have a just turned 4yo and a nearly 2 year old. Mine and Dh relationship has been strained for a little while I wont lie. We coast by normally but its been roomate stage for a bit

We were just discussing something. Basically in the past a sibling of his made a weird comment about me. They argued but moved past it. I have always felt awkward with this sibling. We seen them earlier and it was awkward. I bring up to DH I feel this way and that Bil doesnt like me.

Dh rolls his eyes goes off on one. Says hes sick of me and says this is why you have no one else.

I mainly have no one because I am awful socially. I was diagnosed with aspergers at 14. I struggle a lot.
.I just feel a bit sad felt like he put me down a bit there and made it seem like yep Im the only person you've got like he holds that power

I dont know im being a bit silly and needed to vent. Im crying again

This took place after bed time I wouldn't have that conversation in front of the kids

"Says hes sick of me and says this is why you have no one else."

That was uncalled for. Honestly. He should know better. I'm sorry, OP 💐

I thought i was being sensitive but I just think it was unesscescary @

No, you're not being sensitive. That was cruel and unwarranted, and he's deliberately targeted a tricky area for you.

That's incredibly unkind of him, and not what you say to someone you supposedly love.

You're only 28. Reevaluate your relationship now, you deserve kindness and respect as an absolute minimums

And I get obviously that mustn't make him feel nice because of what happened a while ago and its his brother but I didnt do it in a I FEEL LIKE THIS YOU MUST AGREE WITH ME AND PICK ME sort of way. I've never made it a weird thing? But I just felt so uncomfortable today after a build up of things and I thought I could share it with my husband

You had every right to talk to your H about how you felt his Brother didn't like you. It's the sort of conversation husbands and wives are supposed to be able to have with each other, especially given that you'd had a previous unpleasant experience with his brother.

Your H's reponse was unsupportive and down right nasty actually.

Your feelings are valid. Your H must be aware that you struggle socially and he should be supporting you and encouraging you instead of undermining you.

You aren't being silly OP. Your husband has just made a cruel and unnecessary comment to you.

Going forwards I think you need to do two things. The first is to seek counselling to find out for yourself whether your relationship can recover/last longer, to help with (maybe) childhood issues etc. If this goes well and you are able to articulate what you want then you could do couples counselling. But do solo first. Find you.

The other thing is to find a group hobby so you can be sort of social but hidden iyswim. Like a knit n knatter group, or a chat cafe (they seem to be springing up more), or helping out somewhere for a couple of hours. Even if you don't make a friend it will help ease your isolation.