I've known Chloe (not her real name) for the last few years. She's in her 30's.
Chloe has a diagnosis of ASD and would be classed as a vulnerable adult. However she has complete capacity, is very bright and completely capable of most things that she puts her mind too
Chloe lives with her parents (no siblings). Her mother has extreme anxiety, and this manifests as being extremely controlling of Chloe. Her mum won't accept any form of help for her anxiety. She says there's nothing wrong with her
Chloe isn't allowed to go out on her own. She can go out with her boyfriend but has to be back home by 9pm. She isn't allowed to stay out overnight (at her boyfriends, in a hotel or anywhere else)
She isn't allowed to choose what or when she eats (her mum makes all her meals). She wouldn't be allowed to go to McDonald's with her boyfriend for example. She has to come home for her meals everytime
She isn't allowed to use public transport (with someone else or on her own). Her Dad or boyfriend drive her everywhere.
She isn't allowed to have a job, go to college or do anything of that nature. She lives on benefits.
Untill recently her mother insisted on washing her hair for her. Chloe is completely capable of doing this herself but her mum won't take no for an answer and would come into the bathroom if Chloe said she would do it herself. It only stopped recently because Chloe had a massive row with her mum about it and her mum eventually admitted defeat...
If Chloe breaks any of these rules her Mum has threatened to throw her out and told her she'll be living on the streets (I think to scare her more than anything else). I've told Chloe that this isn't true and that she'd be looked after if they did throw her out. But she's too scared to challenge her mum anymore than she has done already.
When I talk to Chloe she says that she wants more freedom from her parents, and to eventually live with her boyfriend if able to do so. She feels they treat her like a child and want to keep her as one (despite now being an adult)
Recently Chloe's Dad made a comment (I overheard it) about what would happen when they (her parents) are no longer alive. It was very concerning to myself and I now fear for Chloe's safety
Social services currently have no involvement with the family. If I rang them anonymously would they be able to do anything or talk to Chloe's parents? I've tried talking to them myself (as have other people who know the situation) but so far they don't see the problem and won't listen to advice