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Does your DH/DP have thoughts about you wearing makeup?

42 replies

turnarounddot · 09/10/2025 15:25

Dh said to me today that he prefers it when I don’t wear makeup. The context was we had an app this morning and I said in the car I looked like a zombie because I didn’t have time to put makeup on. DH said he actually prefers how I look without it. I do have decent skin except slight redness around my nose but I like wearing mascara and blush and lipstick too. He didn’t say anything like don’t wear it or anything but I just wondered if anyone else’s partner tells them if they prefer them with or without it?

OP posts:
Nofencesitting · 09/10/2025 15:31

My first H was the same.

He much preferred me without make up.

And he used to tell me that most men preferred women with little or no makeup.

I still wore it of course although in those days not every day.

Purplecatshopaholic · 09/10/2025 15:32

He couldn’t care less about whether I wear it or not. Thinks I’m the sexiest woman alive regardless (he’s wrong, but I’ll take it, lol). I do wear make up, and wear it for me, not him.

EndlessDistraction · 09/10/2025 15:33

He has never commented on it. I don't wear much though.

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user2848502016 · 09/10/2025 15:36

He doesn’t really care either way, I don’t wear loads of makeup anyway so I don’t look that different with or without

splim · 09/10/2025 15:37

He basically said you look great, in the context of you sharing that you didn't feel looked great.

Your post reads to me very much like
"I said I looked fat. My husband told me I don't look fat. Does your husband comment about your weight too?"

Tillow4ever · 09/10/2025 15:37

My husband has always said he prefers me without makeup. But he only ever said this if I were getting ready to go out with friends and he wasn’t going out with me - if we were going out together he’d tell me I looked lovely, I realised over the years, when I stopped making any sort of effort, it was a control technique on his part.

AnnaMagnani · 09/10/2025 15:39

When I do wear makeup, which is about twice a year, he will notice and say I look nice.

But he definitely prefers being with someone who rarely wears makeup.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 09/10/2025 15:50

DP is at her prettiest when she's made up ready for a night out.

She's at her most beautiful when she's lying in bed in the morning, hair mussed in her slobbiest pyjamas wearing no makeup at all and giving not the slightest shit what she looks like.

I prefer option 2. I don't express an opinion either way though because it's none of my business. She gets to wear whatever she feels most comfortable in.

Original poster
turnarounddot · 09/10/2025 15:50

@splimI’m not criticising him though, I thought most men preferred it that’s all, so I was curious if anyone else knew what their dh thought ☺️

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Sagaciously · 09/10/2025 15:53

My husband always says I look great without makeup and I don’t really need it (neither of which are true), but he’s never said he prefers me without it.

splim · 09/10/2025 16:23

Fair enough OP.

Yes, I think my husband is a bit mystified by the whole thing and doesn't like the texture of lipstick or lip balm. But as a low maintenance person I probably would not have attracted a high maintenance person as a mate, IYSWIM.

thisishowloween · 09/10/2025 16:26

DH has never commented either way.

I almost never wear make-up though - I work outdoors with animals and at home there's absolutely no point.

KitsyWitsy · 09/10/2025 16:31

My partner doesn't care but I don't think he'd like it if I wore tons of makeup. As it is, I don't wear much at all. Just enough to make me look less haggard.

Scottishlassie10 · 09/10/2025 16:58

I‘ve never worn it, even on my wedding day. When we met he said one of the first things he noticed was I wasn’t wearing any make up and how lovely I looked. Neither of my DIL’s wear any either. From speaking with sons and male friends etc the majority of men prefer without.

IsadoraQuagmire · 09/10/2025 17:02

Nofencesitting · 09/10/2025 15:31

My first H was the same.

He much preferred me without make up.

And he used to tell me that most men preferred women with little or no makeup.

I still wore it of course although in those days not every day.

I think a lot of them can't tell the difference! I met a guy for the first time recently, we were sitting outside a café, so broad daylight, and he said how beautiful I was especially since I wasn't wearing any makeup at all. I was actually wearing lipstick, mascara AND eyeliner pencil! I just said "thankyou" though 😂 He wasn't flirting with me incidentally, he was gay.

DurhamDurham · 09/10/2025 17:22

I’ve never asked his opinion and he’s never given it. He sees me in measure wearing makeup and without. Makes me wonder which is actually prefers? Not enough to ask him but now I’m curious 😆

runningonberocca · 09/10/2025 17:29

DP prefers me without makeup and tells me I don’t need it. I wear it any way ( he knows I wear it for me and my own confidence) and he tells me I look nice.( and helpfully points out if I need to blend a bit better).

Scottishskifun · 09/10/2025 17:33

DH prefers me without makeup and he hates lipstick I get zero kisses if I have it on (not me wearing it he just doesn't like the transfer etc)

I don't tend to wear makeup day to day though I'm too lazy!

Deliveroo · 09/10/2025 17:33

He prefers kissing me without lipstick. Come to think of it, I would too. Other than that he’s never commented.

ItstheHRTpat · 09/10/2025 17:36

My dh doesnt like lip gloss cos he says its horrible to kiss. Other than that he tells me Im beautiful whether Im wearing make up or not - the little liar!

AgnesMcDoo · 09/10/2025 17:42

It’s not something we’ve ever discussed.

I almost never wear any.

pokewoman · 09/10/2025 17:43

I don't know, and I don't care.

I wear makeup for me. Not him. Not anyone else.

HeartbrokenCatMum · 09/10/2025 17:46

Tillow4ever · 09/10/2025 15:37

My husband has always said he prefers me without makeup. But he only ever said this if I were getting ready to go out with friends and he wasn’t going out with me - if we were going out together he’d tell me I looked lovely, I realised over the years, when I stopped making any sort of effort, it was a control technique on his part.

Yep heard this so many times, it’s a control thing and taking you down a peg or two.
So many men say this to their wives and partners but then you see what they lust after… full makeup and everything else.

BlueberryLatte · 09/10/2025 17:51

Mine has never said but I think he prefers me with makeup tbh! I almost never wear it though as it makes my nose itch and I like being able to rub my eyes etc etc

Jamesblonde2 · 09/10/2025 17:51

You see if I was honest I’d say most women (not young girls) look better with a bit of make-up. Doesn’t have to be loads, but just a few bits to even our skin tone, but of colour on the cheeks etc

So I’m really surprised if anyone, men or women, say a woman looks better without it.

I’m also surprised at the mention of so many women not wearing any make up.

My DH would likely say I look nice with or without but I’m sure if I didn’t put any make up on at all to go for a night out he’d ask what was wrong.

We don’t look perfect but DH and I like to think of each other as looking after ourselves with what God gave us, and part of that is make up for me, smart ironed clothes, tidy hair etc.