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If you invite friends and their kids over on a weekend evening…

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sicilianpizza · 05/10/2025 17:39

and you offer for them to stay the night too so the kids can sleep over so they don’t have to leave too early in the evening, when would you expect them to leave the next day- early (after breakfast/mid morning) or after lunch or later? They are fairly local.

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Catcatcat111 · 05/10/2025 17:39

Early, so you have a bit of your weekend left to you. Definitely by 10.30

Bumdrops · 05/10/2025 17:41

they should fuck off early -
after breakfast
loitering after that is taking liberties

Jellycatspyjamas · 05/10/2025 17:41

Late morning before lunch, in fact if I were the one staying I’d use needing to get lunch as motivation to get everyone moving towards the door.

PullTheBricksDown · 05/10/2025 17:41

More like 12/1 for me. Suggesting going out for breakfast would also mark a point when they'd then go home.

Are they still there? They are, aren't they? 😃

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 05/10/2025 17:42

I think this is a there is no expectation question, and generally about communication.

If I had plans the next day (work, school, lunch with the in laws, football and swimming, sitting on the sofa being a sloth) then I’d communicate that, and the start time.

If I was relaxed and didn’t have an agenda, I’d ask if they wanted breakfast, and go with the flow.

EchoedSilence · 05/10/2025 17:42

After breakfast. So you can both get on with the day.

Dartmoorcheffy · 05/10/2025 17:43

Depends what the arrangements are. If we have friends at weekend we might plan to go out for breakfast before they go, or plan a Sunday roast. If you want them to leave by a certain time then just say so.

ComfortFoodCafe · 05/10/2025 17:44

Let me guess theyre still there now?

Runningismyhappyplace50 · 05/10/2025 17:45

By 11am at the latest!

BlueberryLatte · 05/10/2025 17:46

Between breakfast and lunch

TyneTeas · 05/10/2025 17:47

Are you asking because they are still there from last night OP?

Santasbigredbobblehat · 05/10/2025 17:48

After breakfast

sicilianpizza · 05/10/2025 17:48

Interesting. I wouldn’t stay much beyond breakfast, or maybe suggest a walk and coffee then head home. If they’d hosted us for dinner and it was a late night I’d assume the hosts would want the day to themselves. Yes, we have friends who just hang around all day, it drives me mad! One time we made plans the next day and they were annoyed! But as a pp said maybe it’s about expectations- we could just tell them but think they’d be hurt.

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ginasevern · 05/10/2025 17:49

Yep, 11am latest unless you'd somehow given them the wrong idea.

Mum2twoandacockapoo · 05/10/2025 18:21

I want to relax on the sofa , take my mask off coz im so overwhelmed from having to be social for 18 hours . I want some me time so I would be out of there as soon as possible on the Sunday .

thing47 · 05/10/2025 18:24

So next time just say something like: 'You're welcome to stay over and put the kids to sleep here so you can both have a drink and not need to leave early, but I'm afraid we do have plans the following today and need to be out of the house by 11am'

Dustyhem952 · 05/10/2025 18:44

Depends how far they have travelled I guess, but your op suggests it’s a local friend for dinner rather than a visit that involved travelling or coming to stay in a formal sense.

Even if it was the former, and they were coming for the weekend, it’s usual to leave after lunch on Sunday.

So for local friends staying overnight I would have thought that pretty promptly after breakfast tbh so by about 10 am ? Certainly no later than 11am.

If the friends linger and exploit your hospitality, then unfortunately you have to be explicit and say you have “plans” , but you need to do that the night before ideally, as it comes across as rather rude in the moment unfortunately.

Some people just don’t have any sensitivity unfortunately, or basic manners, and if they don’t host themselves, little idea of what it involves,

I get this often nowadays with simple lunch or tea invitations. One person I invited to tea talked non-stop about themselves for four hours straight without pausing for breath and with presumably zero curiosity about our plans for the evening. In the end, I just had to stand up at the table to break the flow which sounds really mean but I had laid on a good home made tea and if I had wanted them to come to dinner, I would have invited them on a Saturday not a Sunday!

It’s a shame when people do this because you are reluctant then to invite them again even if you enjoy their company. Far better to keep things short and sweet and leave people wanting more!

vincettenoir · 05/10/2025 18:46

10/11ish. Before lunch but late enough for a bit of a lie in compared to a weekday.

Nopayrise · 05/10/2025 18:51

I think the point is they’re not really being invited “for the weekend”, they’re being invited for the evening and then to crash for the convenience of not having to leave to get the kids back. So yes, should be gone the next morning when dressed / probably breakfasted unless they live say 10 mins away in which case they may as well just head home for a leisurely breakfast / whatever they would usually do…

sicilianpizza · 05/10/2025 19:25

thing47 · 05/10/2025 18:24

So next time just say something like: 'You're welcome to stay over and put the kids to sleep here so you can both have a drink and not need to leave early, but I'm afraid we do have plans the following today and need to be out of the house by 11am'

Yep did this last time and they were quite offended we had made plans! They just like to hang out with us and go with the flow but I find guests quite a lot of effort and am desperate to be on my own the next day. I will be firm from now on (please come for the evening and do stay over but we’ve got things on the next day) but good to know most people are in agreement with me on this!

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coxesorangepippin · 05/10/2025 19:26

By 11am the house should be my own

coxesorangepippin · 05/10/2025 19:26

This is why I don't have guests, because they always take the piss

Snowfalling · 05/10/2025 19:28

sicilianpizza · 05/10/2025 19:25

Yep did this last time and they were quite offended we had made plans! They just like to hang out with us and go with the flow but I find guests quite a lot of effort and am desperate to be on my own the next day. I will be firm from now on (please come for the evening and do stay over but we’ve got things on the next day) but good to know most people are in agreement with me on this!

They have a cheek being offended! do they think you don't have a life? Very rude of them

autienotnaughty · 05/10/2025 19:40

Unless we had plans I’d say 11.

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