Teenagers & Alcohol At Home

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What’s everybody’s stand on this? I know many teenagers experiment & I don’t want to be too strict because it would just make DD16 want it more but I’m unsure how to play it. DH doesn’t agree that we can buy some alcohol for DD if she’s going to say a house party where an adult or adults will be around. I know my DSil let my niece & nephews take low alcohol fruit ciders or similar to parties when they were 16 or 17. DH says it’s still illegal to buy alcohol for a minor, even if they’re not wandering the streets drinking it. DD is nearer to 17 than 16 but I would say immature in some ways. Do you buy alcohol for your under 18s? Neither of us drink so we can’t introduce DD to it with meals etc ( she eats in her room or on her own in the kitchen anyway). As I said, we don’t want to make it forbidden fruit but I don’t feel I can buy low strength for DD if DH isn’t onboard.

Anyone out there?

Well you can ban it and make it more attractive to binge and not tell you. Or you can educate about how to stay safe and buy a reasonable amount if she’s going to try it anyway. You’ll probably get both sets of views on here. But I chose the latter.

If your OH is all about the legalities, a child can have alcohol aged 5-17 in a home (in a private property and not a licenced premises) so that's a non issue assuming she is drinking it in someone's home. Alongside parental supervision I would allow it at that age, but I would be picking them up at the end of the night and it wouldn't be a regular occurrence.

I will get my DD17 some ciders or smirnoff ice. She is not far off 18 now and is quite sensible, never bladdered at parties.

It is fine for your dh to think that but I think you are just making it more attractive as it is a forbidden thing. We have always allowed teenagers to have alcohol at home, a small beer etc and they took beer to parties from 15. 2 dc, 1 drinks in moderation even now at 24 and dc18 really does not drink at all.