To tell work or not?

[SigmaFreud]

Would appreciate some thoughts on this please. I have been in my current job 6 months, left a long term job due to shitty treatment from my previous boss which has perhaps made me more wary about how to deal with the below.

new job going well however my personal situation is going rapidly downhill. I’m perimenopausal and experiencing a range of symptoms which are impacting me at work. I am about to start some treatment for this but unsure how this treatment will impact me, I suppose initially it could make things worse before making them better.

on top of that my marriage has broken down and I’m likely going to divorce my husband over his repeated shit behaviour.

should I talk to my new boss about any of the above? My main concern is being seen to not be capable of my role and the responsibility it entails. This is a more senior role to the one I previously held and given I will be the sole financial support for my child post divorce I can’t afford to lose this job!

I didn’t because it was none of their business. I also was not comfortable discussing it. I chose to start a new role due to my children so I left after a while. Also work was a good and welcome distraction. Depends if you feel it will have an impact on your work and hours? Also depends if you feel they will support you depends on the company/people.

I wouldn’t say anything because I think that side of things should stay private. If you ultimately need time off for whatever reason, then that’s the time to explain your situation.

Thank you. I suppose it’s difficult to know how it would be received as it’s new to me and I’m still trying to understand my place and get the measure of everyone.

im having brain fog and finding it hard to control my irritability. I suppose because I’m new most people probably just think this is how I am usually, a bit of a moody forgetful cow!

My work is very open with menopause. We’ve had seminars you can attend. It would depend on my relationship with my colleagues.

Yes I have read and heard of companies who are quite proactive with understanding of menopause. I work for a small family owned business in the north so we are not really big on seminars, but that’s not to say that they wouldn’t be understanding. One of the senior people is a woman the same age as me so if I were to confide in anyone it would be her in the hopes she may have a similar experience or understanding.

I wouldn’t mention anything at the moment as you’re still very new and don’t really know how your employer takes this sort of thing.
Many workplaces have menopause awareness stuff as a tick box exercise to look inclusive but the reality can be quite different!

You’re just about to start treatment so hopefully things will improve soon. If you need time off you can cross that bridge when you come to it

I would think about what might help first before speaking to them. It's all very well them being aware but you don't want to feel like you are just making excuses if that makes sense.
Before hrt I had awful rages, everything annoyed me and there were lots of spontaneous angry tears. I would excuse myself and leave the room if I needed to at work. A couple of minutes fresh air and I was calm enough to carry on. Memory is still rubbish so I write everything down, send myself emails and ask others to email the information if there is a chance I will forget about it.

Depends. In my work colleagues 100% talk about this. Maybe start with one person?

Thank you so much for your comments they are all really helpful.