Just had a romcom moment on the train (light hearted)

[LoisLaneKent]

just sharing because it gave me a lift 4 months after being dumped and having the worst year of my life so far.

so I met this guy at a friend’s event, went about my day and somehow bumped into him later in the street. So we’re both getting the subway on different lines and as I’m telling him a story his train arrives. I say ‘oh do you have to get it?’ And he says yes, runs across the bridge and that’s it.

10 mins later my own train arrives, I get on and he sits down next to me! He said ‘you know, I realised I wanted to hear the end of that story and can go the long way round.’ So he takes the train with me to my stop ans then gives me his number.

im def not ready to date again but I thought it was sweet and it gave me a little lift after such an awful year of heartache :)

You've been crying for four months. That's long enough. Make the decision that you've cried enough tears over this person. Then pick up your phone and contact Mr nice guy!

Oh goodness so you have a whole city full of men with Scottish accents?

😍😍😍

You shouldn’t have taken his number if you don’t intend on messaging.

I would not message if you don’t want to take it romantically.

Everyone needs friends. And he sounds exactly like the friend you need at this moment.

Go have a coffee. You've nothing to lose. This will become a 'what if' moment if you don't.

My heart did a little jump when it got to the part where he sat down next to you.

I vote for writing a novel, messaging and meeting up (please nothing about "not ready" — way too heavy) and leaving your trauma in the past.

Please message him, I think you might need to spend time with a nice guy to help with your recovery and mend your heart.

This! And new friends, especially kind and thoughtful ones, are worth it.

This. Reciprocate a bit.

You asked and it's happened.

I think you should message. He deserves a response so he isn’t sat at home wondering what he did or said wrong. You don’t have to make any promises of it going anywhere!

You HAVE to message him. You just have to.

Oh I love this, definite romcom vibes!

Oh my god, message him. Why let a ex control your future!

'My advice is to always ruin the friendship
Better that than regret it for all time
Should've kissed you anyway
And my advice is to always answer the question
Better that than to ask it all your life
Should've kissed you anyway'

You've cried a long time over someone who probably wasn't worth your tears in the first place, OP.

Life's too short - message him.

Aw this is lovely OP! Go for a coffee with him. Be transparent about where you’re at and just get to know him. You’re not committing to anything by having a coffee. I do believe things happen when you least expect it.

I was sort of put on the spot! Didn’t have time to think or weigh it up as I was just about to get off the train.

Beautiful, explain not ready to date but we can be friends, that's how me and hubby started and it grew from that

Don’t let the past break up cloud your judegement. This sounds wonderful.
maybe just meet up as friends in a group if possible and see how things go

have to say of that happened to me it would weird me out to much and I would be thinking WTF 😬

@AntiBullshit yeah well it did weird me out a bit! The moment he said he’d got on the train to hear the rest of my story ‘wtf am I in a romcom’ actually went through my head.

I could definitely use more friends right now. But I know in my heart that’s all at this moment.

Thank you for sharing this OP! What a beautiful moment.
You could just message to say what a sweet and flattering thing it was that he did. You said he seemed nervous, so it must have taken courage for him to put himself out there like that. You can acknowledge this without it having to lead to a date.
If this were a movie, the main character could be hurting and not ready to date just like you are. Roll end credits? I don’t think so.

Glad it's not just me whose brain immediately went there ❤️