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Test in Nov but can’t spend another minute with DI

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Calmingsnake · 27/09/2025 09:47

As the title says. Things were ok with him at the beginning but the past 3 sessions he has made me feel so uncomfortable. He’s said a lot of things but yesterday was where I felt that I’d had enough of him.

He told me that his wife was going through the menopause and that he’s getting fed up of the “dry spell” which resulted in him asking me when I last had some “action”

Told me a story about a 19 year old pupil he had not long ago. She had apparently told him about a night out where she met somebody and went back to a house with said male and he then went on to tell me what had happened between them. This “story” it was really, really graphic and to be honest I cannot see a 19 year old girl (if anyone) telling him this

He was teaching me parallel parking. I was struggling a little bit with the steering and he told me a technique that could help. Apparently I should turn the steering wheel towards his penis then towards my boobs.

He says all of this whilst laughing and I don’t find it funny. I am trying to drive while he’s saying these things. It’s horrible and I dread lessons. Of course I know this is wrong but I have my test in November and I’d love nothing more to never have to be in his company again but with my test being so close I don’t know what to do

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Climbingrosexx · 27/09/2025 09:56

OMG you need to ditch this creep, I understand driving tests are hard to come by but is there any other way you can take it without him? Do you have access to another car and someone else could take you? If not would it be the end of the world if you had to put it back or maybe try to get a swap with someone. You could also try to find another instructor again I know thats not easy and they would want to assess you to make sure you are test ready. I say ditch and report to the dvsa. Even if you do decide to continue with him until your test he needs reporting

doubleshift · 27/09/2025 09:57

Find another instructor. Report to DVSA

MNJury · 27/09/2025 10:00

What a dirty perv. I wouldn't be paying him to get away with this any more.

Is he part of a bigger driving school? If so, definitely report to them and don't hold back. Either way, I'd ditch the creep and report to whoever I could find.

I wish you the best luck finding a new instructor and with your test. Driving will be so much easier when you can focus on the driving rather than your discomfort at sitting next to an absolute arsehole.

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TutTutTutSigh · 27/09/2025 10:01

Report this creep!

Tallisker · 27/09/2025 10:02

Just out of interest, how old are you? Imagine him in a car with a 17 year old who will have few defences against such shit. Driving instructor is a high-trust position and there are standards. Report to DVSA and his franchise group if part of one. That is so seriously out of order.

Purplecatshopaholic · 27/09/2025 10:05

Ugh. And this man is a professional DI? Fuck that, he needs reporting (not sure who to). I’d change DIs right now - you need to be focusing on passing your test, not listening to this perv. Good luck with your test when it comes - it’s liberating and so lovely and freeing to be able to drive yourself.

Mischance · 27/09/2025 10:05

FGS report him and ditch him. My DD had similar during her driving test!
They never give up these creeps. See if you can lose him his job ... he deserves it.

Climbingrosexx · 27/09/2025 10:07

Out of interest does this jerk display a blue or pink badge? He MUST be either an ADI or PDI to charge for lessons or he is breaking the law.

Deeprug · 27/09/2025 10:12

I'd be worried he's ramping things up as he knows your lessons are coming to an end.

parietal · 27/09/2025 10:20

Find a different driving instructor and report this creep.

BellissimoGecko · 27/09/2025 10:27

Sack him then report him. Massive creep.

AmberJumps · 27/09/2025 11:00

Change instructor. There are some terrible ones out there.

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