Feel as though I’m not taken seriously

[Waterhorse46]

I am 28 and in a management post. I often feel I’m being unnecessarily belittled by others in meetings. It’s happened so often since I’ve moved here. I don’t particularly enjoy my time in this particular work place. I’ve got bills to pay though so for now I just have to keep on keeping on.

However, I feel drained all the time by this place. I feel im always being told things as though I’m illiterate, people seem to act like I don’t know what I’m doing. Even though I have done my best to turn around a failing department.

I just don’t know what to do. It’s small comments and small things but it’s exhausting feeling as though I have to prove myself. I’ve had to grey rock management because they speak to me like I have no intellect and it’s offensive and often patronising.

Anyone have any advice?

No advice but I am in the same situation but I am closer to 48! I am a professional intellectual woman but feel like a 5 year old in my workplace.

I’ve been looking for a new job at least once a week for the past year, job market is tough at the minute.

I don’t let it dampen my confidence though because I am very sure of my capabilities and know that it’s my boss who’s the problem. He hates women and thinks we’re all thick.

Do you stand up for yourself when they speak to you in a belittling or disrespectful tone? If not they’ll just carry on and word will get round that you’re a doormat.

Go to your HR department about it.

As someone in a managerial position, you’d be expected to deal with this is an employee came to you with the above issues. So do what your job requires you to do but for yourself

This is the kind of thing a coach could help you with.

I often feel I’m being unnecessarily belittled by others in meetings

I feel im always being told things as though I’m illiterate

people seem to act like I don’t know what I’m doing

I’ve had to grey rock management because they speak to me like I have no intellect and it’s offensive and often patronising

Can you give a specific non outing example. What did someone say or do, what did you infer (believe about it), and how did you respond?

Does anyone else feel like this too? If so what are they doing?

What have you tried doing to address it?