What would you do?

[Greenwriter76]

Friend booked theatre tickets for a group including me and she paid half of mine as a birthday present and I paid the other half (roughly £17 each).
I now can’t go unfortunately and friend has sold my ticket on for roughly £17.
Friend has asked whether I want the £17, or to split it so half each? Or should I just let her keep it as I was the one who initially said I could go but now can’t?

I’d let her keep the £17. To me it’s fair that she gets back the half she put in and you forfeit your half. Plus it’s such a small amount I wouldn’t quibble over it.

This.

Absolutely this

no hesitation

Agree with above

Were you even considering otherwise Op?!

£17? I’d write it off.

Thankyou for your replies 🙂

I just wondered what others thought as I think my friend is thinking that as I’d already paid her for my half of the ticket and the half she paid was as a present for me, the £17 she got reselling the ticket is technically mine as she wouldn’t want the money back that she paid out as a present for me.

But no I certainly wouldn’t quibble over it.

Why did she sell it for only half its face value?

I agree that she gets the full amount.

I assume that was all she could get for it

Quibble over it?

If this is what my friend was thinking, I would say “lovely thought but no way do I want you passing me over the money due to me not being able to make, how about you just buy me a birthday drink / coffee when we’re next out”

It was your ticket
You couldn’t go
Bit odd that you didn’t try to get involved to resell

I think differently than others here . Surely the £17 is her present money to you @Greenwriter76.
I am surprised she asked you first and didn't just give you the £17. Unless she is going to buy you another present ?

Yes but the ticket was already paid for - friend bought half of it for my bday present and I paid her the other half.
How do you know I didn’t help to try and sell it? I did lol.
Once you’ve bought someone a present it’s theirs, no? You wouldn’t ask a friend to return a present to you that you had bought them would you?

Re the quibble comment I was responding to a pp who asked if I would quibble over it.

Thanks @MaryGreenhill, that is why I posted, because she had already bought the present (half the ticket) and I had already paid her the other half, so to me & perhaps her as she was offering me half the money back, it wasn’t clear cut.

I told her to keep the money, which she appreciated, so she has recouped what she originally paid out, including what she paid for my present. But my birthday’s a while away yet and I wouldn’t be surprised if she bought me something as it’s in her character, but I’m not worried either way.

Playing devil’s advocate, technically the half friend put in was mine, as it was her present to me - so her keeping the money is like buying someone a present then taking it back.

But as I said, I have told her to keep it and she appreciated that.

So you told her to keep it
She said thanks

and you started the thread because you think she should have insisted on giving it to you?

I told her to keep the money which she appreciated

In your Op I I think my friend is thinking that as I’d already paid her for my half of the ticket and the half she paid was as a present for me, the £17 she got reselling the ticket is technically mine as she wouldn’t want the money back that she paid out as a present for me.

No I started the thread because I wasn’t sure what the right thing to do was, so wanted others opinions. I needed input on how to judge the situation - which is the point of an AIBU forum.

As I said in my op.& you have quoted, I think my friend was considering that the money was technically mine, hence why she offered me half or the full amount back (which is what contributed to my confusion in the first place!). As another OP said, she was surprised friend didn’t just give me the money. back - the situation wasn’t totally clear cut.

But it’s all sorted now in any case.

The “right thing to do”… you or your friend?