Its a tiny thing but made such a difference.

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BF do the same sport, so were are training together last night. It's tricky with evening training, you can't really eat before, but I don't like eating too late either. Usually I try and eat mid afternoon, but last night that hadn't been possible because of work.

I've been on my own with teens for a few years. They're pretty good, will do pretty much anything to help, when asked, but they do need to be asked/organised.

Last night, knowing I hadn't been around to organise food (for me, I don't usually do his, we don't live together) BF stopped at M&S and bought dinner, then sent me for a shower while he heated it up.

There's no way it can be said he "cooked" for me, but having someone else do the thinking, and getting out of the shower to find dinner waiting was lovely. It's hard to explain just how lovely it felt in that moment.

I need to increase my expectations...don't I?!

I'm a single parent of teens and I feel like this when someone just makes me a cup of tea, so I get it! But don't let on to him that you are quite so absurdly grateful or he'll think that's job done forever!

Conversely, I would tell him that you really appreciated him sorting dinner out for you both.
You don't need to act like he's solved world peace, but let him know you appreciate it.

The "little things" count a whole lot in relationships. Me telling my partner that I appreciate the little things he does for me has never stopped him doing them. Conversely, he does them more often.

But yes I agree, sometimes expectations are rock bottom when it comes to other people maybe doing something for us 😅

Yes I told him. I'm hoping it's positive reinforcement to encourage a repeat 🤣

That's lovely OP. It might be a small thing, but I think it's a great sign overall for a relationship and the character of your partner. Knowing that you're with someone who automatically thinks of your needs and feelings, and considers them a priority, is really great.

So, I had a really late meeting tonight, which over ran, finishing at 8:45 when I'd told BF I expected to be home by 8:30 (and couldn't let him know because I was in the meeting).

I got home to find him in his car outside my house, with ingredients to make a good salad (quick). Which he made while I did a bit of tidying. Then he washed up and told me to go and put my PJs on while he made the tea.

I'm so not used to this 😊

He sounds like my now DH. I was a single parent when I met him, and the first time he stayed over at my house when he left I looked out the window and he was de-icing my car. ☺️ He’s still a good guy and fetches my constant cups of tea.

I would marry for less than that!

Sounds as though you've got a good one there. I had to catch an early train today and mine got up at 5.30 to take me to the station even though he doesn't need to leave for work till 8.30.

Sounds a keeper! My lovely ex (not ex for bad reasons, just tragic ones) would do the same for me as I worked longer hours. One standout memory for me is when I developed this rotten cold overnight and said to him: "Oh god keep away from me, I've got the plague and I'm a horrible patient!" He physically lifted (the very big) telly and brought it into the bedroom, put it on the dressing table and told me to choose what I wanted to watch and he would make me some food.

I chose some horror thing, because to be honest I was looking and feeling horrific... and 20 minutes later he was back with tomato soup with cheese toasties to dip into it. I could have cried. He then watched the whole film with me (The Conjuring if you're asking!) lying next to me on the bed and stroking my horrible sweaty forehead. I love, love, love that man to this day. I have never felt so cared for in my whole life. I was a gross snot goblin. He didn't leave my side.

I think it's the little things that make a good or bad relationship. DH and I always bring the other a cup of tea in bed in the morning, not strictly turntaking just whoever gets up first. Tonight I've got raging toothache and feeling sorry for myself, DH said go up to bed love and sorted out the recycling and bins and put it outside, we usually both do it. We've been married 35 years and I do think those small acts of kindness to each other build a bond 🥰

You are completely right. It's a partnership isn't it? When the ex I mentioned got this weird fever once on holiday and felt like trash I just said: "Love, do you want to go home?" and bundled him up in a blanket and drove him straight back home overnight. Popped him into bed, went into town to get some medicine (and his favourite sausage plait things - I think they're gross to be honest, but each to their own!), came back home and put everything on the bedside table with a little bell, so he could ring me if he needed me. It's what you do, isn't it?

Am so sorry to hear about your toothache, it's the worst because it invades your entire head. I've not had it often but clove oil works for me and if none is to hand, popping a couple of cloves into a cup of tea is relieving too. I really hope you feel better soon, you poor thing! Take care. 💚