Would you feel silly giving this present

[TheBigBagBabes]

My neighbour (who I’m really close to) has had a beautiful baby girl and I have ordered an item with her name on. Obviously won’t give the full name here but it’s along the lines of Esme Rose Smith. Rose is the mother’s maiden name so it’s nice that her maiden name is included but it’s not double barrelled in anyway. My neighbours name is Mrs Jones.

However, after I’ve picked the item up (and the lady behind the counter showed it me quickly and it looked fine), I’ve realised that due to the sizing and placement of the name, they weren’t able to get Smith on so have put welcome to the world Esme Rose. This would be absolutely fine if it wasn’t for the fact that Rose is her mums maiden name so now I’m worried they’re going to think I’ve totally gotten the name wrong.

DH says I’m totally overthinking it and being silly. I’ve looked back on the message I sent and I did ask for Esme Rose Smith but I can see why they weren’t able to put the full name on. I’m not going to have chance to go back and change it as the shop is a 30 minute drive away plus I am due to go around and meet the baby in 1 hour and it’s the only gift we’ve got!

Am I being ridiculous

Ps I didn’t notice until I’d gotten home that it didn’t have the surname on or i would have said something in the shop

I'd send it back for a refund. They haven't provided you with what you ordered and presumably didn't bother to contact you prior to dispatching it to tell you it wasn't possible.

So it has her first and middle names but not the surname? Totally fine

It was something I ordered for collection, it’s hand maid (it’s a print with a picture matching the nursery theme then ‘welcome to the world Esme Rose’. If her middle name was Jane I wouldn’t even give it a second thought but it’s just with the mums maiden name being Rose.

Hand made*!!

I would take it back and get a refund. You didn't get what you asked for.

Yeah her first name and middle name but her middle name is her mums maiden name (the baby’s mum) so it looks like a full name.

So my neighbours name was Sally Rose, it’s now Sally Smith. The babies name is Esme Rose Smith but the print says Esme Rose

You're overthinking it. Is it an item of clothing?

It’s a print for the nursery. I do have a tendency to overthink 🤣

Phone the shop, send them a picture and ask them to remedy it. I’m sure they could put the smith on another line. They may replace it and just tell you to keep the faulty one

You're overthinking it. That is the childs middle name. No matter where it came from. People give gifts with first and middle name all the time. If the childs last name was Rose Smith, then it would be rude to have just Rose.

Definitely no issue. Would you think like this if Rose wasn’t the mums name or any connection and for example they called the baby Esme Louise would you be bothered if the item come saying Esme Louise ?? It’s the babies name . Normally you would just have first name and maybe middle name , rarely full name ?

It’s fine.

I would return it purely because it’s not what you asked for!

I think there is an issue and it's only because the mum's maiden name is also a common first name that it sort of looks ok at first glance. Imagine the mum's maiden name was Smith, married name was Jones, so they named the baby Esme Smith Jones (not double-barrelled, just a middle name). If the print said Esme Smith that would just seem wrong.

I would gift it to the mum with the explanation and ask her if she would like you to get it changed at the shop (which I am sure they will do!) or if she would like to keep as is. Tell her to be honest as you really don't mind but didn't have time to remedy before you saw her.

I wouldn't give them the gift for the reasons you state OP. If it was Esme Jane or Esme May then it would be fine, but Rose is the mother's maiden name so it puts a different spin on it. Also, it's incredibly poor of the shop not to fulfil your instructions. Personally I'd visit the neighbour and explain the cock up (assuming she's not some kind of diva). Tell her you fully intended to bring a nice present and you'll bring it round when the mistake has been sorted.

This is what I would have done too.
What did you decide to do??

She loved the gift and told me silly about the name! I’ve been going through a few things and I think I just totally latched onto this and spiralled slightly! Thank you

This. I mean, those are the baby's first and middle names.

Oh, good!