Do you celebrate your wedding anniversary?

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Just that really. Dh and I seem to forget it exists and that’s ok with us but wondered if we are a bit odd. Dh parents went all out every year whereas mine didn’t celebrate it.

One of us usually forgets, unless it’s a decade.

We might have a nice meal and a nicer than normal bottle of wine. We exchange cards and silly low cost presents, ideally based on whatever that years anniversary gift is. It’s just a couple of days from DS’s birthday now though so I can see it taking a back seat as he gets older.

One or both of us usually forget, honestly there's enough things to remember and spend money on with all the Birthdays and Christmas!

We usually forget, and remember a few weeks later

Yes, usually a weekend away, not necessarily on the date of our wedding anniversary. When the children were young, we would have a meal out. It’s more important for my husband as he works away sometimes and he feels it shows his appreciation of me.

We did this year because it was our 40th.

Usually yes. But it's no biggie if one of us forgets.

@MyMilchick that's kind of what happens with us. Someone else texts us congratulations and we go oops together

Our 25th wedding anniversary was a complete *&^t show so since then we merely wish each other happy anniversary.

Swap a card and that’s it. Was our 25th last year and swapped cards in the morning and then got on with our days.

Ours was on Saturday. Most years at least one of us will remember to buy a card; I’ve bought one but failed to write it and haven’t been at home for a few days. We’re often doing uni drop offs; if we weren’t, we’d probably go out for dinner. We’ll have a weekend away once the kids have left and settled in.

We nearly always forget ours. If we do remember then we'll nip out for a meal at the local pub or get a takeaway. We've just had our 33rd anniversary but didn't remember to celebrate it until afterwards.

My parents were much the same too and nearly always forgot theirs. They were married for 63 years.

Not unless it’s a big year.

Maybe go out for dinner, but don’t usually bother with cards or anything

We had a party for our 20th anniversary, although we just fancied a party and it was as good a reason as any

It’s our 25th the year after next and I think we’re looking at a big holiday

Sometimes we do and sometimes we don't. It depends what's happening in our lives at the time. For the last couple of years, we've been dealing with extensive house renovations, the threat of redundancy and two disabled kids with high support needs. We agreed that under current circumstances, unfortunately shopping for cards and gifts and sorting childcare so that we can spend money we can't afford on a hotel or a restaurant is just stressful and not fun at all. So we have agreed to shelve the celebrations for now. But when circumstance are more favourable, we've always done a little something. Maybe afternoon tea or a nice lunch somewhere. Sometimes a day out with the kids. We're quite low-key people though and not into big celebrations in general.

We did this year married 60 years

If I hadn't put it in our calendars as a recurring appointment - we'd forget. We don't do much - sometimes a meal out - but more likely a Dine in for 2!.

Yes we do. When kids were young and we didn't have a lot of money we'd just get a takeaway or and M&S meal deal. The last few years we've gone out for a nice dinner or gone away for the weekend. It's our 30th next year and we've booked a holiday.

The longer we have been married, the more important our anniversary has become. He appreciates that only a saint would have put up with him for 34 years, I appreciate the independence he has given me.

I was with my late OH 15 years and we celebrated every year. Usually low key - a nice home cooked meal and a cuddle on the sofa, or going to our favourite Chinese restaurant.

We never did gifts / cards / holidays / parties though. Just an excuse to spend the evening cuddling and chatting about fond shared memories.

Often we do have like a nice dinner at the weekend. And by nice dinner, I mean we might have some steaks or something more than the usual weekday fare. This year though, we both sort of forgot until the day, laughed about it and wished each other a happy anniversary. Dh had COVID and I’m immunocompromised, so he said, I’d kiss you but maybe I shouldn’t, and I say, no please don’t. And that was that.

We’ve been married 14 years, together 17. We definitely did make a bigger deal of it when it was a bit more novel. But we are happy and have a very healthy marriage. We do find ways to spend time just the two of us, but we’re secure enough that we don’t need to do a big thing all over social media. The people I can think of who make a big over the top deal of their anniversaries every year tend to be the folks who are struggling most behind the scenes.

Not usually. We used to go out for a meal if we remembered but we haven't for ages. 20 years next year though so maybe that's worth a BBQ or something.

We exchange cards and a little present. Sometimes we might go out for a meal on the weekend near our anniversary but just depends what else is going on.

We don't. Will say happy anniversary and maybe have some fizz at the weekend, but haven't done cards or presents for years. It annoys DD so she made me get him a present and card last year (20years) I spent less than £10 and he picked flowers from the garden. I won't bother this year. We're happy and I'm glad we will be together forever, but I'm not fussed about the anniversary.

Yes, generally low key though. Exchange a card and have a 'nice' meal, in or out. It usually seems to coincide with another life event. This year, our 24th, we were in the throes of moving house.

We’ve remembered one in ten. I don’t attach much importance to specific dates and would struggle to even tell you what year we got together.