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People that can’t dance

39 replies

Arrrrrrragghhh · 21/09/2025 00:08

I can’t. Live music but I just thrash about completely out of rhythm.
Anyway tonight lots if people sniggering at a middle age bloke jumping around to the band when equally pissed youngsters were doing the same.
Anyway whatever do those of us with no sense of movement but like the band/song cope?

OP posts:
DiscoBob · 21/09/2025 00:10

I have no coordination but love moving around enthusiastically to music. I wouldn't call it dancing per se. I just ignore anyone giving me funny looks as it's enjoyable expression for me.

I'm not trying to win strictly or become chief backup dancer for Charli XCX. 🤣

OriginalUsername2 · 21/09/2025 00:24

Don’t worry about what the biggest idiots in the room think. My mixed group of friends always appreciated someone just going for it, only the insecure people are looking around taking the piss.

suki1964 · 21/09/2025 00:37

I just dance

Can I dance? Probably not

Do I give a fiddlers fuck what other people think of me? Nope

When the music hits the spot, the body just wants to move

Same with singing - not a note in me, does it stop me?

Music is to be enjoyed, I love it

5:30 am, in work, radio blaring, Im dancing and singing away - no one to see ?hear me btw,( only the cameras ) but even if there was , I wouldn't let it bother me

padso · 21/09/2025 00:45

I can dance but would never judge someone enjoying themselves who can't dance. I probably wouldn't even notice as I'm too busy having my own fun
Far better to have an event filled with bad dancers having fun than nobody dancing or letting go.

TomatoSandwiches · 21/09/2025 00:50

I just do big fish little fish, cardboard box and hope for the best.

Yellowshirt · 21/09/2025 00:52

TomatoSandwiches · 21/09/2025 00:50

I just do big fish little fish, cardboard box and hope for the best.

😂. You're in the can't dance group then.

RedNine · 21/09/2025 00:58

My dancing is stuck on Northern Soul mode [slides away]

Notimeforaname · 21/09/2025 01:07

Im a choreographer. I can tell you nobody actually wants to see someone who can dance, on a night out. Thats not fun.
What's fun is seeing someone having a great time, not giving a fuck abut what they look like.

People may have been laughing at that bloke but I bet you he was having the time of his life!.
Let go, move in the way you like to, and dont give a shit about anybody looking at you. That defeats the purpose of dancing for fun!!!

JubilantGirl · 21/09/2025 07:41

I AM
100% ONE OF THESE

ALWAYS HAVE BEEN
ALWAYS WILL BE

MNJury · 21/09/2025 07:51

Music and dancing are a widely shared human experience, it's the act of doing it that brings most joy to the most people, not watching it I reckon. No, not everyone likes dancing, usually because of confidence reasons, but most people can remember a moment when they were moving their body and having a marvellous time which is hard to replicate. Ever been to a cèilidh, or a greek night, or a wedding where an old tune beloved of a friendship group was played? It's the joy of movement and connection which is great to join in or just watch, not the technical brilliance of the dancers, you can get that at the ballet (which I also love).

The sniggering will be their own inhibitions coming out I reckon. Go on dancing man! 🕺

LemonTwix · 21/09/2025 08:37

I try and copy someone and try and get into their rhythm. I tend to avoid it where possible, though do sometimes enjoy it once I get into it.

I’ve had at least 5 people tell me, unprompted, that I’m a bad dancer, so I’m pretty paranoid. It’s not like I’m out there doing anything wild, buy hey ho.

golemmings · 21/09/2025 10:12

I don't dance.
I was at a disco when I was about 7 and parents were laughing at me. As a student id only dance if I was drunk.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 21/09/2025 10:21

I was at a party recently, the type of casual multi generation thing in a local sports club. One of the group was a professional dancer, when we were bopping to a 70s track she made up a basic choreography and everyone copied and it was so much fun. Then she did it every single song, I started to ignore her as did most people eventually but she kept trying to get people to look at her to copy her. In the end I was mentally screaming just F off with your dance moves and let us be. So yes, I'm agreeing with choreographer @Notimeforaname that being a good dancer is more irritating than being a bad one. The whole point of dancing is letting your body do what it wants and enjoying it. No one is watching in judgement and if they are shame on them.

Brightbluesomething · 21/09/2025 11:59

The older you get, the less you care about other people’s opinions, and the more fun you have.
I was so self conscious in my 20’s so this affected how often I danced.
I don’t care now and I’ll get up and do whatever I fancy when the tunes are good. No one tells me I’m a bad dancer, which I probably am, because I don’t spend time with people who would criticise someone else like that. And no one remembers how someone else dances the next day.

Comedycook · 21/09/2025 12:05

I don't dance...I actually have rhythm and am coordinated. I could follow a simple choreographed routine quite easily. The problem is free styling....I over think every movement and end up feeling self conscious. I'm better if alone but even then I start thinking about it too much.

It's really shitty to laugh at someone dancing

defrazzled · 21/09/2025 12:21

All humans can dance, it's a behaviour of our species. Singing, dancing, making music. Some of us do it better than others, but we can all have a go. What I lack in style and form I make up for with energy and enthusiasm.

Haters gonna hate but I have no fucks to give and am a surprisingly popular partner for very accomplished dancers who love to take me under their wing and spin me about a bit.

Binglebong · 21/09/2025 12:32

How funny, I was reading on Facebook yesterday about the man who got shamed for dancing and loads of people came together to give him a party.

Jasmin71 · 21/09/2025 12:34

I was a Mosher not a dancer🤣

TheExcitersblowingupmymind · 21/09/2025 13:29

RedNine · 21/09/2025 00:58

My dancing is stuck on Northern Soul mode [slides away]

Likewise if it ain't Northern soul I ain't dancing.
Been like that for 44 years+

Womanofcustard · 21/09/2025 13:33

I was what was known as an Idiot Dancer in the late 60s/early 70s.
I still can’t dance!

2025mustbebetter · 21/09/2025 13:34

Get in the mosh pit 👍

shellyleppard · 21/09/2025 13:36

Op I can't dance or sing but it never stops me singing along as loud as I can..... especially at concerts!!! I'm making myself happy and really don't care what I look like 😊

KawasakiBabe · 21/09/2025 13:41

I used to be able to dance, years of raving and copious amounts of drugs gave me the courage to try new stuff and keep going through the failures to finally get it right. Nowadays I still can dance but wrecked knees and exhaustion take over pretty quick, lol. I never even looked at the people who couldn’t dance, those were the normal ones, I watch the really good dancers.

InMyShowgirlEra · 21/09/2025 17:44

We went "clubbing" a few weeks ago for the first time in years, and DH, watching me dance, said to my best friend, "What she lacks in rhythm she makes up for in energy."

Joke was on him later on in the evening when BFF and I had a steady stream of ridiculously young men asking to buy us drinks, despite the bad dancing.😂

If I'm out dancing, I'm there to have a good time- a night out nowadays is way too expensive to waste on caring what other people think.

JubilantGirl · 23/09/2025 13:46

Is it just me who when reading this thread title thinks of that brilliant Genesis song?

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