Son currently in A&E majors and DD getting married tomorrow.

[triballeader]

My eldest daughter is getting married tomorrow. So far three close family members have had to cancel as they are too ill to travel.

Eldest son called me at 4am to let me know NHS direct was sending him an ambulance after he spoke with them as he could not sleep and felt very unwell and in a lot of pain. (Slight panic on my part as he has had sepsis and been very unwell before)
Paramedics took one look at him and carted him off to A&E. Triage took one look and moved him straight to majors as his infection markers are through the roof. He is pleading the Drs try and work something magical so he can somehow get to his sisters wedding tomorrow. I am stuck at home holding my phone.

I have not called his sister to let her know yet and tbh it’s not a call I want to have to do. Decided I will wait till midday and fine out if the Drs want to use I/v antibiotics or if he can get a few hours pass on major oral anti/bs for the actual wedding itself minus the party. His partner is gutted as she is travelling over to his this evening to come to the wedding.

The waiting on a day I had hoped would be a happy prep one has yet again nose dived somewhat. Stuff getting nails done.Wish my mum was here, she would take my back when life got like this. All I can think of is my daughter is going to be so sad if he cannot come.

Sepsis is no joke. Hope he recovers quickly

Isn’t it far more important that your son is ok, than whether or not he attends his sister’s wedding, op?!

Crikey she should know better then op than to prop her brother up hooked up to all sorts without a confirmed diagnosis. This is insane talk! If he’s well enough to be discharged, maybe but to take home out of hospital is mad! Hope he gets well soon

Presuming the doctors at the wedding will want to be able to have a drink, dance, enjoy the wedding etc not have to worry about their GMC number while looking after somebody who sounds like they are acutely unwell and need to be in hospital, not at a wedding reception. It’s one thing to respond to an emergency situation at a wedding but this is insane. As a doctor there’s absolutely no way I’d want to put myself in this position from a medical legal point of view (let alone a what’s best for a potentially septic patient point of view). If your son is poorly enough to need hospital admission and IV antibiotics then would he even want to be at a wedding? Surely it’s better just to record it/stream it to him? It’s a shame but it’s one of those things - you can always do a family meal once he’s better to celebrate?

Awww , DD sounds wonderful as do You .

Whatever happens I hope its sorted out in some way for You all and I hope its a Sunny, lovely Wedding Day for your DD and her DH to be

This.

It would be unethical for the hospital to release him.

If he has already started a course of IV anti-biotics, it can also be really difficult mid-course to swap to oral antibiotics too, and it all obviously depends on what sort of infection he has.

I had sepsis in one hospital, on IV antibiotics, while my son at the same time, newborn, had meningitis, in another hospital, and their hands were tied for 48 hours in releasing me to be with him until I'd finished at least one round of 4 bags of IV antibiotics and several rushed blood tests just so they could swap me to orals, and even then they wanted to keep me as I was really genuinely unwell and they had to discuss the ethics of keeping me in or letting me go to be with my infant.

I don't think they will release your son to go to a wedding when he is also so unwell, has additional vulnerabilities, and the person instructing them they'll take responsibility for his care is the one getting married and so will be otherwise occupied. There'd be liability issues galore for both your daughter and for the A&E staff. They can only agree that he can be discharged if he is well enough to do so.

It is really unfortunate timing, but they're not there to facilitate your son getting to your daughters wedding, they're there to save his life.

Hope your son is on the mend @triballeader

Thank you, Ds had got to the hospital in time but due to communication disorder(his not staff) he had not understood what the two plans were. He had not realised he could tell staff the pain meds had worn off and they had not spotted he was in extreme pain as he laughs rather than cries or goes silent. hence staff having to follow his hospital passport plan which states his wishes that I am only to be called in when staff are unable to manage him as that is what he wants. (Adult with vulnerabilities with sometimes fluctuating capacity from MH are allowed to choose that)

He has a known gut disorder that CAN cause sepsis and has done so in the past. His care plan is to head to A&E to be assessed by surgeons if he thinks it may be flaring as it’s easier to manage and treat at the start rather than when it’s gone all gone west. He spotted the warning signs, called for medical help in time and was able to leave with mega antibiotics, lots of very good pain meds and has an appointment to reassess later this morning.

He made his sisters wedding and had a lovely if slightly fuzzy thanks to meds time.

His hospital passport will be update to reflect how bad his communication gets with even experienced staff when in a lot of pain.