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Is £65,000 a year before tax a good income for a couple in South Surrey?

46 replies

Benny91 · 18/09/2025 20:41

Evening all,

Just wondering if this is a good income for a couple and also wondering, for you guys who live in the South East what is your income before tax?

Sorry if it sounds too personal.

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vodkaredbullgirl · 19/09/2025 08:59

You are paupers 🙄

limescale · 19/09/2025 09:00

Benny91 · 18/09/2025 20:41

Evening all,

Just wondering if this is a good income for a couple and also wondering, for you guys who live in the South East what is your income before tax?

Sorry if it sounds too personal.

Can’t you use Google and look up average salaries?

MN isn’t representative.
If you’re financially secure then it’s a good income.

JDM625 · 19/09/2025 09:08

It depends on lots of factors. If its 2 people early in their careers, living in a flat with no kids, then maybe not so bad.

If its an older couple with kids and a mortgage- then not so great.

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HerewardtheSleepy · 19/09/2025 09:12

As a single person's income it would have been "good" in the 1980s. Not today. As a couple's joint income, average at best.

Toomanywaterbottles · 19/09/2025 10:52

Easily. I work and earn 35k (gross). DH doesn’t earn anything (freelance work dried up due to the growth of AI), but doesn’t claim any benefits. We own our house.

20% of the U.K. population is aged over 65, and nearly 40% is aged over 50. Do people really think that a pensioner household is in general receiving 70k in income? They’re not.

These threads are typical in that they tend to discount those in older middle age and the elderly.

vivainsomnia · 19/09/2025 12:04

Depends where in SE. Ashford or Hastings very different to Brighton or Sevenoaks.

Whether you would be renting or owning g with mortgage fully paid off.

Also totally depends whether you have children or not. Young children on full childcare, tough, no children at all, ok.

CloudPop · 19/09/2025 12:34

bumbaloo · 18/09/2025 21:12

How???

Wondering the same thing. Must live somewhere rent / mortgage free

autumnsessions · 19/09/2025 17:10

If I had no mortgage Id be fine but otherwise no not enough but people on here seem to be able to live on fresh air. I wouldn’t chose to live in Surrey on that salary, I’d be surround by people who would be relatively a lot wealthier than me and that would make me miserable.

DrAmanitaPhalloides · 19/09/2025 17:11

Kindly. You are a DPovvo.

FuzzyWolf · 19/09/2025 17:15

Even if you both earn that, it’s not a good combined salary for the area. However, if you own your home outright and have minimal outgoings then it would be ok.

MyElatedUmberFinch · 19/09/2025 17:24

Depends on housing/childcare costs. My DH and I get slightly more as a youngish retired couple in a neighbouring county and we have the life of Riley.

Thelankyone · 19/09/2025 17:30

No, it’s not, is it yours, if so the you should know how much it buys you, which isn’t much,

childofthe607080s · 19/09/2025 17:47

HerewardtheSleepy · 19/09/2025 09:12

As a single person's income it would have been "good" in the 1980s. Not today. As a couple's joint income, average at best.

equivalent to over 280k in 1980, 170k in 1989 - yes 65k would have been fabulous in the ‘80s

not quite sure why you think that significant ?

Pharazon · 19/09/2025 17:56

Depends on housing, life stage, children etc. it’s substantially below the average dual income household for SW Surrey which is one of the wealthiest parts of the country.

Sodukuchess · 19/09/2025 17:58

It's absolutely fine as a wage. People forget that you don't just halve it to see how much that is per person as it's much cheaper to live as a couple than a single person. Cheaper to eat, one set of utilities, combined mortgage etc.

yonem · 19/09/2025 18:06

Toomanywaterbottles · 19/09/2025 08:47

Well, we live well on half of that in London, as do many people. No, we don’t get any benefits.

Do you have housing costs?

FuzzyWolf · 19/09/2025 18:21

Sodukuchess · 19/09/2025 17:58

It's absolutely fine as a wage. People forget that you don't just halve it to see how much that is per person as it's much cheaper to live as a couple than a single person. Cheaper to eat, one set of utilities, combined mortgage etc.

I live in South Surrey and if that wage is equally divided it means £4500 per month before any pension or healthcare etc deductions. Almost all of that would go on my mortgage and commuting costs. It’s not going to give someone in the area a good standard of living.

MyElatedUmberFinch · 19/09/2025 18:58

FuzzyWolf · 19/09/2025 18:21

I live in South Surrey and if that wage is equally divided it means £4500 per month before any pension or healthcare etc deductions. Almost all of that would go on my mortgage and commuting costs. It’s not going to give someone in the area a good standard of living.

It would if they don’t have rent/mortgage, commuting or childcare costs.

Sodukuchess · 19/09/2025 19:00

FuzzyWolf · 19/09/2025 18:21

I live in South Surrey and if that wage is equally divided it means £4500 per month before any pension or healthcare etc deductions. Almost all of that would go on my mortgage and commuting costs. It’s not going to give someone in the area a good standard of living.

£4500 is a fine standard of living even with a mortgage unless you are paying £3000 a month for a mortgage which is unlikely for most people as the average UK mortgage payment is about £1200pm. Even if the poster has a mortgage of £2k then they'd still have a full average wage to use for all other bills and to live off.

FuzzyWolf · 19/09/2025 21:18

Sodukuchess · 19/09/2025 19:00

£4500 is a fine standard of living even with a mortgage unless you are paying £3000 a month for a mortgage which is unlikely for most people as the average UK mortgage payment is about £1200pm. Even if the poster has a mortgage of £2k then they'd still have a full average wage to use for all other bills and to live off.

If my mortgage was £2k then I wouldn’t have posted as I did.

The average UK mortgage payment is irrelevant in an area where property prices are significantly higher than average.

Funsummerfun · 19/09/2025 22:00

No, not in S Surrey.

The cheapest rent on a 2 bedroom property within 3 miles of where I live in SW Surrey is £1300 p/m. The cheapest 2 bed house is £1750. A 3 bed is £2k+.

If you are buying the cheapest 2 bed is about £220k. 2 bed house is £330k. 3 bed is £400k+.

Band D council tax round here is £2.5k a year - so £250 pm

Gas, electricity and water likely £200 pm

Food probably £400+ pm

A full time nursery place - if you can claim 30 hours - is £1.2k a month

So around £3.8 - £4k p/m for rent, bills, food and nursery.

This doesn't include insurance, transport, broadband, phone, clothes, shoes....

Of course without nursery fees it's a very different - and more affordable - position.

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