Would you expect to mark this "anniversary"

[Bideo]

BF and I started very much as "just" friends. Other people were assuming we were a couple long before we were aware of it ourselves.

We're middle aged, neither has any ambition to marry or live together, but we have a nice comfortable life, having fun, travelling together and generally being there for one another.

Were coming up to a year since we got very drunk and started snogging each other, and the rest, as they say, is history.

An anniversary of when you got together has always seemed a bit naff to me, but if there is never to be a wedding anniversary...?

No, because I'd have no idea what the date was. But then we're not big on our wedding anniversary either.

But if you want to celebrate it, then why not? I don't think it has to be naff. Assuming it's just something between the two of you then it's unlikely to be naff (it's when you expect other people to get involved that things can go a bit awry I think)

So do most other people know the date when they first kissed, got together, whatever? I know it was during the Easter vac (we were students) but I couldn't be more precise than that!

It could be fun to celebrate the snog one year on.

We celebrate the day we met every year, we've been doing it for 20 years now and will continue to do so.

We celebrate the day we first went out rather than our wedding anniversary.
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Our wedding was to please our parents really .. religious upbringing, small Scottish town, living together 50 years ago wasn't felt to be an option .. it never really felt like our day either then or since.

I think it's great that you're both so happy. Celebrate and have a lovely time!

I celebrated the anniversary of our first date with dp until we got married . We didn’t do cards or pressies but we would do a meal out or night away.

I have only the vaguest idea when our wedding anniversary is, but I always remember the first time we held hands. Feb 18th 1992.

Knock yourself out if you want to celebrate!

We celebrate the day we got together as our anniversary. It took us ten years to get married, we celebrate that too but it’s more low key.

I think your relationship sounds great and you can celebrate any anniversary you damn well please!!

We always celebrate our "getting together" anniversary with a nice meal.
Going out for dinner is too expensive for us to do very often so it's lovely to have an excuse to go and enjoy ourselves having a lovely dinner.

This is so cute! And for what it’s worth, we didn’t get married for 12 years, so our anniversary has always been and will forever be when we first snogged in Leeds Train Station. Congratulations, OP!

Why not celebrate? Life can be joyless and tough. Celebrate the good things. Doesn’t need to be a big deal but love (especially later in life) should be acknowledged. Who cares what other people think. Here’s to year 2 x

I can’t imagine not wanting to celebrate the anniversary of getting together with my husband. It’s 100% worth celebrating and means so much. I’m always baffled by couples that don’t acknowledge their anniversary as for us that day changed everything. But I guess some people just aren’t sentimental.

Yeah, I would! My partner and I have been together five years but not married. Every year we celebrate 7th July, as it’s when we had our first date. We call it our anniversary and swap presents and always go out for a nice dinner. It’s lovely!

God some of the negativity on here will never fail to astound me. Life can sometimes be joyless. I’m always up for celebrating the wins, no matter how big/small. Do something low key like a bottle of fizz and nice meal at home. Mark the occasion definitely. I think it’s really sweet.

Maybe as a youngster, but I’d not mark a getting together anniversary as an older person in a newish relationship. My husband however, definitely would as he’s a total romantic.

Yes it is certainly a date for celebration.

DD and her boyf (22 and 23) always go out for a meal on their anniversary of becoming boyfriend and girlfriend . It was their 7th this year 😳

Yes they are obviously younger but being older shouldn't mean that we can't be joyous about occasions!

Got together late 50s and we celebrate the anniversary of the day we first started chatting online, anniversary of first date, anniversary of moving in, anniversary of engagement..... you get the picture.

Seems a bit sad if you don't feel it means anything.

What did he do in the end to mark this anniversary of first snog @Bideo ? Expectations were high given how much he’d been excitedly telling you how excited he was about it!

We are married and ancient (but still have school aged kids), but we celebrate the day we had our first date (partly because it's a Friday 13th!) and the day we got married - there are other dates in between we don't celebrate - the day we got together, the day we moved into our house - so just pick a day (or two!).

We got to about a year and realised neither of us was sure exactly when we went on our first date so we didn't bother, but got engaged and then married soon after so we do just stick with the wedding anniversary. But if I knew the exact date I would be up for marking that, it is more important than the wedding anniversary in many ways as we wouldn't have had the wedding without the first date.

I have always celebrated day of meeting or day of ‘officially’ we are bf gf.

Why not? Go out for a nice meal, have a few drinks and tell stories about when you first met. Enjoy!

DH and I consider our "anniversary" as the day we first snogged and he fingered me on a bench. Classy.

We don't bother celebrating any anniversaries though.

Why not go out for a lovely meal together? Or a weekend break. You can find som good value weekend deals on Travel Zoo.