Just need someone to talk to

[ScattyCat25]

Hi

Going through a really awful time right now.
Everything is going wrong.
Not really close to my family anymore.
I have no one to turn to or talk to.
Just need an ear basically as feeling really lonely right now

Okay. Just say one thing and we can take it from there

Hi OP
I'm sorry you are going through a hard time.
Do you want to say what it is that's causing you so much upset?

Sorry?

I have a ear, two in fact, pretty deaf since Covid, but have been told I'm great listener.. let's see if we can help you.

Would you like to tell us what's happening?

I’m another one here to listen, if you want to elaborate on what is going on.

When you say everything is going wrong? Is everything going wrong or does it just feel like that because you’re maybe feeling down?
Do you want to share your problems see if we can help or give perspective?

Long story short found out my sons dad and my sister have been messaging behind my back.
Now my whole family is not talking and I feel like I'm to blame.(even tho I done nothing wrong)

None of the family are close anymore and I'm such a socialable person I'm struggling without my family around me.
Nights are the worst 😪

Feel like all my family are taking my sisters side and not mine.

I'm having to call my mum in tears asking what it is I've done to make no1 wana talk to me.

Hi,
Sorry to read you are having an awful time. It is understandable given the circumstances.

You are not to blame for any family fallout from sister and son's dad messaging each other. Be kind to yourself. 💐

I know it's not my fault.
But I'm constantly asking myself what is so wrong with me that he felt the need to msg her instead of me.
It's knocked my confidence and I just feel a shell of myself.
We aint together so in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter but just makes u think if ur sister can do that was I really as close to her as I thought I was?

Do you mean romantic messages between the two of them? Or just general stuff?

Explicit messages.
I really wish it was just general chat

Well no wonder you are upset OP.
That's some betrayal by your sister.

I know but my sister thinks she has done nothing wrong and doesn't wonder why I'm upset.
She's a pretty girl and can have anyone she wants.

Well if course she is doing wrong: she is hurting you, her sister.

And I don't know how old your son is but has she considered his feelings? It's pretty confusing for him to have his aunt and his dad in a relationship.

Wow, how can your family side with your sister after her doing that.

to be honest they don't sound a great family at all. you'd be better off stepping away from them for the sakeof your own mental health, they sound awful. Do you have friends you can talk to. It must make you feel like you're going mad as their morals are all so skewered.

She has shown no interest in my sons feelings not even asking to see him or asking how he is.
It's like sometimes I think am I too sensitive why am I so upset but then on the other hand I'm thinking no you are supposed to be my sister through thick and thin.

I need to take a step back for my own mental health and realise if she valued me as a sister she would never have gone there

Thing is we used to be so close as a family come to think of it was always me arranging days out/calling texting etc....
But that's normal for wanting to be close to your family.
I just sit here sometimes thinking have I done something to upset them/make them hate me.

I think I'm a nice person and would do anything to help my family.
Christmas/holidays are ruined as we can't all be in the same room as each other