Having an ex step-parent

[Cattenberg]

Did you stay in touch? I'm thinking particularly of children who lived with a step-parent for years and got on well with them, only for their parent and step-parent to separate. That sounds difficult.

One of my friends has an ex step-parent, but as she only knew him as an adult, never lived with him and he and her mother parted on bad terms, she doesn't miss him.

Yes I do. I now live in another country so I don't see my ex-stepfather often but still send him Fathers Day and birthday texts, and think of him fondly - he raised me from a toddler till 16 after all. Grumpy sod but he did his best :)

I am an ex-step parent. I still see my step-daughter. I’m incredibly fond of her and I’m happy to be part of her life. I was her step-parent from age 4 to 15 and she’s now 27.

Her father (my exh) does not agree and has already started making demands of my being excluded from any wedding plans if she gets married…..😭

I'm sorry @Blueuggboots. I hope she doesn't go along with his wishes.

@Cattenberg- she has said they might elope. I have made it abundantly clear that I would behave and would LOVE to be there, but as she pointed out, I am not the problem!!
I would love her to stand up to him and tell him all 4 of her parents (her mum remarried when SD was 8) will be invited and can choose to come or not, but I don’t think she will….

Some of my friends have incredibly close relationships with their ex-step parents. Possibly better than with their actual parents in some cases.

I suspect a lot comes down to how long the step parent has been in their life and their age when the split happens, especially if their parent is able to control contact or not.