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A loan to leave abuse.

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Bishopsbuddy · 15/09/2025 14:37

Help. I’m in need of a loan to leave an abusive relationship. It’s controlling and I’ve been putting things in place to get out.

I need 3500 approx. I earn about 1800 as a self employed cleaner. I’ve never had a loan or anything before and I’ve no idea what I’d need. Can anyone help with company recommendations and what I’ll need pls.

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dailyconniptions · 15/09/2025 14:55

Have a look on Martin Lewis Money Saving Expert's website. Loan eligibility calculator etc on there. Good luck OP.

DeanStockwelll · 15/09/2025 14:59

The 1st thing I'd do is speak to CAB i dont know all the detail but i think there are loans / benefits/ help you can get to get away from DV .

Then speak to your bank , see if they can set you a overdraft that's practical.

Also get in touch with Women's Aid, they will be able to give you alsorts of good advice as to where you can get help.

Don't borrow money of family or friends, it never ends well.

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Bishopsbuddy · 15/09/2025 15:01

Thank you. I would never borrow of friends and family. I’m doing this myself and haven’t told anyone I’m even planning this as otherwise I have a friemd who would insist on helping and take over. I need to do this myself. I just need to borrow the first months rent and deposit. I’ll be grand paying that back and living after that.

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NoahDia · 15/09/2025 15:04

If you've never had a loan you might need to check your credit score.

Google Experian where I think you can check for free.

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Bishopsbuddy · 15/09/2025 16:19

Ok thanks for that. I didn’t even think I wouldn’t get one.

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DeanStockwelll · 15/09/2025 16:39

I am glad your not planning on borrowing from friends and family and i applaud you doing this on your own but there is absolutely nothing wrong with getting advice from the professionals, that's what they are there for .

DeanStockwelll · 15/09/2025 16:45

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Have a look at this site , there is loads of useful information, even if you don't use it now you may want it in the future.

Home - Women's Aid

Women's Aid is a grassroots federation working together to provide life-saving services and build a future where domestic violence is not tolerated.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk

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Bishopsbuddy · 15/09/2025 17:03

thanks for that I’ll have a look. Do I need to prove the abuse for these agencies to help me? He isn’t physical toward me. But is very controlling and emotionally abusive.

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DeanStockwelll · 15/09/2025 22:47

I am sorry I don't know.
But I am sure there must of been many women in a similar situation to you that have gone to WA and received help and advice.

I would say trust in them., be honest don't under or over play your situation and see what they say.
You have got absolutely nothing to lose by speaking to them.

If at all possible call them while you are at work or he is out just to avoid any confrontation.

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