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What would you do in this situation?

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Peoplepleaserincrisis · 15/09/2025 11:27

I had an acquaintance reach out late Saturday night to ask if I was able to do a favour for an important event they are having this weekend. It is a craft that I do. I said I would be happy to help and would do the task (for free with them providing materials) today as this is my day off. I messaged them about 2 hours ago and they let me know that they still wanted me to do this job but that they were having a medical issue (which I'm obviously sympathetic to) and would drop off the supplies "later". I've not heard anything since and as the day goes on I'm worrying I just simply won't have the time to finish it to a decent standard. I feel terrible to let them down, particularly as they are unwell and likely stressed planning for the weekend.

I'm a people pleaser by nature and do struggle with boundaries (I know, get a backbone!) but I am finding this situation really tricky and would appreciate some advice as to how to tackle this politely/kindly as I will have to have interaction with this person in the future and don't want things to be awkward.

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rainydaysaway · 15/09/2025 11:29

Message to say you’re sorry you can no longer help but it is now too late in the day for you to complete the project

edit for spelling

Yourethebeerthief · 15/09/2025 11:30

Phone and say if you don’t have the stuff by X o’clock you won’t be able to complete the craft. Offer to collect the things only if that is doable for you.

You can’t work miracles and make the things with no time. Just be polite but straightforward.

VenusClapTrap · 15/09/2025 11:33

“Hi Bob, hope you are ok, just to let you know that the craft takes x hours to complete, so I’ll need the materials by y o’clock if you still want them for the party. Best wishes,”

Peoplepleaserincrisis · 15/09/2025 13:02

Thank you for the entirely sensible suggestions! I don't know why I couldn't think to word it! I sent a message and have heard nothing back so I guess that's that!

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