If you 50+ do you have a massive social life ?

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As I get older, I am happy to see friends once a week. This is all I can fit in with DH/DC/work/my hobbies/working FT. I have a friend who wants to see me up to 3 times a week sometimes. This is impossible with everything else I have going on.

How often does everyone else, 50+, see friends ?

It doesn’t matter how often other people see friends. If you don’t want to see this person three times a week, don’t. I don’t know what a ‘massive social life’ means to you, but while I see friends several times a week, they’re different friends/sets of friends, and I see them doing different things.

I don’t see any friends 3 times a week.
I work full time and have a decent social life. I do have different sets of friends though. I’ve never been one of those people who do everything with just one group of friends.

Sigh. I can't even get friends to meet me once in 3 months!
I would like to see friends once every week or two weeks at least. Not the same friends.
But all my friends have become recluses.

I probably see (different) friends once or twice a week. The same friend three times a week would be far too much.

Yes the same friend 3 times a week would be awful.

3 times a week, that would exhaust me, lol
i haven’t done that since uni when we were pretty much living together.

I see lots of different friends. Sometimes I might see 3 sets of friends in a week, sometimes none. Seeing the same friend regularly three times a week feels odd, unless you want to of course!

3 times a week would completely exhaust me. I’m an introvert and need to have space and wind down. I’m not sure I would even have anything to say if I was meeting up with someone 3 times a week.

Over the years I have had friendships that have fizzled out because we have different expectations at meeting up. I’m also not keen on socialising with colleagues outside of work although I do meet up occasionally with ex-colleagues. I’m in a fairly senior role and my team wanted to meet up and go trampolining on a Saturday afternoon, my view was go ahead if that’s what you want to do but count me out. My weekends are sacred and I have no desire to go to a trampoline park ever but apparently they couldn’t go without me.

Your friend sounds excessively needy. I am sixty and see friends about once a week, aside from special occasions when it might be more often. Not the same friends either, usually different friends or groups of friends.

Three times a week for one friend is crazy! Once a week or so is enough for me, but that would be in total (so split between different friends).

I wouldn’t want to see anyone 3 times I week as I like my evenings to myself.

I probably go out with friends every other weekend plus the odd catch up with food maybe a couple of times a month.

I wouldn’t even want to meet someone I was dating 3 times a week let alone a friend

Realistically I see a friend once maybe twice a month. None of us have the time or energy for more than that but we always say we should see each other more. The reality is different.

No I tend to see my family mainly and may catch up with friends every few weeks

i like being at home when I’m not working

We have quite a few friends but they’re in different groups. Last week, for example, we met one couple for drinks and that was all we did.

Next weekend we’re doing lunch with a different group of 4 and going to a quiz night with another group of 6. The week after, we’re hosting a dinner at home, for yet another different gang.

We usually see friends for a meal or drinks most weeks, but we spread them out, so it’s the same friends only every couple of months, iyswim.

Met two yesterday for coffee op great to see them. I def find people really flaky now all keen to meet but dont commit. I dont put myself out as much now. Im 50s

I’m menopausal and knackered. I probably meet up with different friends every couple of months, no way could I cope with weekly, never mind 3 x a week!
I did used to be a lot more social and see people 3-4 times a month, but I’m not capable of that now. I deal with people all day in work. I need to come home and switch off to be able to get up for work the next day.

I’m 55 with DH and 2DS, youngest is 13.

I’ve got a lovely friend locally and see her once a month for drinks or theatre and DH and I join her and her DH once a month and go for dinner.

Then there’s my BF who lives in another city. We see each other every 2 months, but message multiple times a day

My uni best mate I see 3 times a year for weekend visits and both families together - cottage break once a year

My oldest friends (from primary school) I see once a month or so

Then there’s the other local friends I’ve met walking the dog, at the hairdressers, at the gym and I might have a spontaneous let’s go for a coffee/pint from time to time. I can go the local pub in my own and find someone to chat to/have a drink with.

Theres also a friend from work that I go out with once a month

And then there’s the drop-ins ‘I’m in the country/in town, shall we meet up?’ That’s 2 or 3 times a year.

lol this is long but I started mapping it out.

DH and I also go out 2 or 3 times a month - pub, dinner, cinema. We all might go out for dinner with my parents once every couple of months, and visit them once a month. We go out for dinner with FIL once a month too, and he comes to dinner with us once a week. Then we host the BIL & SIL twice a year for 4-5 days.

Sometimes life does feel like a ‘social whirl’ and I reckon I do something two or three times a week if you count the family stuff. Everybody is nicely spaced out though.

I don't know any adult who sees one person that often unless they are related to them. I meet up with my friends once every few months. Life is busy, we all work FT, we all have teenagers, we all have families. I don't go out with DH that often so why on earth would I see a friend more than him.

Older than you. See some friends weekly for coffee but l may be away or busy. So as often as l can make it. Love that. Very little online communication. But absolutely no way could l see even my favourite people three times a week. Some people are too demanding and l would run from a friendship like that. Recently l went on a weekend break with long term dear friends. Fantastic time but happy not to see them for a few months now and absolutely sure they feel the same.
You are normal and stick to what you want or you will grow resentful.

No fixed pattern.
We are social and meet up with local and not local friends enough. Peaks and troughs.

We have older teens who take up a fair amount of time and money, are working like bastards for uni fees and early retirement.

This will obviously change, but for the moment most of our social time is based around people in this house, which is absolutely fine because this is what we created, H and the teens are lovely company.

What’s your friends set up? 3 times a week is a lot, I adore my friends but that would be too much. Two thirds of my friends don’t live locally as I have moved around quite a lot. I see one friend once a week and the others it’s a bit harder and varies, one I see every other week and with the rest there is zero pattern. A distant friend and I FaceTime a couple of times a week.

I've lived alone for 25 years. Just retired early after 31 yrs teaching. Am currently working 2 days a week. Want to see more of people, the reality is they are not available.

The only people I'd ever want to see more than once a week would be family, someone I was dating, colleagues in the workplace or parents at the school gate. I have close friends I WhatsApp several times a week and see several times a month. I think this is really what most people are like

From the title, I opened the thread to say that, from my 50s, my social life has opened up again, as I no longer need childcare / to arrange for dh to be in if I am out etc.
I do 'see' different friends across the week - at things I go to or belong to, but they will be different people at different groups.

I have quite a lot of friends I might only meet up with once a year, or once every 3 months or so, but of course this means it adds up to a social lunch or something every month or so.

Seeing the same person 3x a week seems intense, but we all do friendships differently.
That said, as per the first response, it doesn't matter what I do, or any other posters do, you need to do what you are comfortable with.

There is no one, with the exception of DH, that I want to see three times a week in my leisure hours.

It's my idea of hell. The older I've got the fussier I've got about how and with whom I spend my free time.