Are we behind in life at 33?

[Benny91]

As me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 years. However we feel like time is ticking and people are getting married and are having children etc.

I am looking soon to get her parents blessing for marriage and we’re looking at moving to a bigger house. But the point is we just feel behind where we should be in life.

Also just wondering, when did you guys get married and have children?

Hello! I got married at 25 but we had been together for 8 years then. And got pregnant when I was 28. But I have lots of friends who are 30 - 34 and are not married / don't have kids.
Everyone is different so you should dp what's right for you two!

We have been together around 9 years, not yet engaged but have just had our first child. We are 35! Everyone has their own timeline :)

I was 36 when I got married and had my DS. DH was 53 and it was his second child but only marriage. You're not behind at all

Met at 23/27 (i’m older)
Married 25/29
Bought a house 26/30
DC1 33/37
DC2 36/40
Paid off mortgage 48/52

Urgh to ‘seeking her parents’ blessing’ for marriage.

Why ‘urgh’? Because some people like to do it differently to you? How do you know they’re not a religious couple where seeking parental approval is considered respectful? Do you ‘urgh’ everything that you don’t like, enjoy or would do?

met at 18/24
bought house at 19/25
married at 22/28
Son born 28/34
paid off Mortgage at 38/44

now 41/47.

Never got a medal or trophy for any of those things! You go at your own speed OP!

I had an “oh shit I’m pregnant” baby when I was 19. Then a second at 22 (that one was planned).
we brought a house when I was 20. Still with the DC’s dad but we’ve never bothered getting married. Still happily together after 22 years.

two of my sisters are still single/in casual relationships in their 30s.
everyone’s different.

DH and I have been together for just over 14 years. Bought our first house together 11 years ago, when I was 31 and DH was 34. Got married nearly three years ago (at 39/42) and having our first kid in the next three weeks (42/45).

There’s no set timescale for these things. Just go with the flow and enjoy life together!

What’s wrong with that? I mean my dad and I would have privately peed ourselves laughing if my DH had asked for his blessing but for some people, it’s still a really important thing that denotes respect and tradition - almost ceremonial. We’re a way out from the connotations/overtones of ownership it once had. It’s not very nice to be so dismissive of the OP on this. At least keep your judginess to yourself, if you can’t be nice.

Met 27
Married 31
DC1 33
DC2 35

All my best things happen in ‘odd’ years!

Got married at 29, dc 1 at 32, dc 2 at 34.
I got cancer at 40, so was very grateful to have had my babies before that (chemo has less likely to conceive naturally).
Dont leave it too late if you really want kids, you don’t know how things will pan out.

It doesn’t matter what other people do, you’re lucky to have found your life partner, the rest will fall into place.

I don't think so.

I got married at 27 and had my kids at 31 and 34, but I know people who did it younger or older than we did.

Met at 23
Bought a house at 24
Engaged at 25
Married at 27
First child at 29
Second child at 33
40 now

Not behind as such but if you do want marriage and children what has stopped you? Why are you waiting because I wouldn’t be having a first baby after 35. I know a few people who waited and then ended up needing ivf.

Oh and my timeline was married @22 after 6 years together
house@23
kids @24 &27
divorce at 28
new relationship at 30
moved in @32
Bought a house together and had final baby @35

Bump

Yes I’m doing it out of politeness. Her parents are Christian.

Also to add. We both have minor learning disabilities and feel out of place in society. We also don’t have many if at all friends!

One question OP - are you happy? If you stop the comparisons, stop worrying about what other people have and are doing, is Benny91 and Benny91s partner, happy?

I’m 33, single and actually never had a long term relationship! I like my life. Marriage and kids isn’t the be all and end all.

Met at 25/29
Bought house together at 28/32
Paid off mortgage at 38/42
Had DS at 43/47
Planning to retire at 52/56

Not bothered getting married yet bit will have to before IHT changes kick in from 2027.

I honestly couldn’t care less what other people do or think. We did things at times that suited us best.

Married at 29. No children yet at 30.

Only one other friend is married at our age, 3 are engaged but they’re all older than us. Only one has a child.

There’s no set timeline to do things in life.

At 33 I was living with a boyfriend, on track to get engaged, married, procreate and all that jazz. But we weren’t right for each other, so we jacked in all in a year later. A year after that I moved country as a single 35 year-old woman. No regrets.

Ask yourself: what do you WANT to do in life?