Wonder if anyone has experienced this - I am the only child to my late 70s parents. They still live where I grew up 3-4 hours from where I live now with my DH and kids. My mum is pretty self sufficient but being increasingly worn down by caring for my dad who has epilepsy, dementia, and had a stroke 18 months ago. But this week she’s been really poorly, had to get an ambulance to hospital as she was doubled over in pain and vomiting from the pain. They sent her home with antibiotics and she’s still the same 3 days later but doc on phone says give it a bit longer, anyway, the detail doesn’t matter.
she won’t speak to me, my dad doesn’t say much on the phone and sounds confused. I just told him he needs to look after himself and make sure mum drinks plenty and rests.
I feel so helpless. I can’t just drop it and drive there due to my kids and work commitments, but I feel so guilty that I’m not nearby.
we’ve been trying to convince them to move closer to us for years but my mum won’t leave her sister (even older and very frail, but has three adult children living within a 10 minute drive), or her church.
I don’t know what to do practically other than just feel so guilty for making my life so far away.
any ideas on how I could improve this at all? Perhaps nothing, I just need to make peace with it and stop worrying.