How have you made friends as an adult?

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This isn't a pity party but I actually dont have any friends, not one.
I moved to a different country about 10 years ago. I made a few friends in a job but once I left the job I didn't really see them anymore.
I didnt make friends through kids schools. They are secondary now so thats a no go.
I'm not working so not there either.
I'm not desperate for friends but it would be nice for the occasional coffee.
Just not sure how to achieve it as an adult.
I'm also neurodiverse so I'm aware that my social skills are not always on point!

I made friends through children's school, children's extra curricular hobbies and mostly by having a dog. It's impossible to walk a dog every day and not find other dog walkers to chat to. One of my friends is the owner of my last dog's best friend.

Book clubs and running club for me.
Whatever your interests are, join a club with like-minded people doing the same thing.
All the best to you, OP.

Join everything.

i moved to a new area.

joined choir, church, book group, band, went to every coffee morning and event going and struck up conversation.

i’m two years in and still do some activities (and not others).

Gym, parkrun, meeting people on hols, work.

Evening class.

Joining a choir worked for me.

Hobby groups, craft or crochet, or a friendly gym with regular small classes.

I think this is the answer.

I tried a choir - people turned up, sang and went home again. But I’ve made good friends through running.

I did this when I moved to a new country but although I met lots of nice people, I never saw them away from said place/activity and wasn't sure how you're meant to!

Women’s rights campaigning & volunteering for my local cat rescue.

Where abouts in the country are you?

Hi all.
I have moved around a lot in the UK due to my husband's job, so it has been difficult for me to maintain close friendships. I am in touch with a few friends and ex-colleagues, but we only communicate via WhatsApp.

I am volunteering in a shop and we have only met up a few times this year.
I have joined dance and singing classes, but I noticed that once they ends, the people don't have time to chat. Hopefully, we will find something enjoyable and some friendly people. It takes time; we just need to be patient and search for the right activities to do.

Child’s school, hobby, local politics, work.

Running gym kids activities/clubs.
but I think I the question is what do you do if you don’t work and your children are older? Do you have hobbies and interests? Are they all solitary? Do you not do anything with other people? You will only meet people you gel with if you have stuff in common.

Where are you Op?
The culture around friendships can be very different to the UK. Lots of people have suggested various clubs etc and while that worked for me when I was in the Uk it hasn't worked abroad. I chat to people at the clubs and then everyone goes home and they don't invite people round for coffee or whatever or arrange meet ups through the clubs.
Also, where I live most people have grown up here and have their friendship groups from their teens and don't want/need new people in their group.
It's hard and I don't know what the solution is and it will depend on the country you now live in as to what the best way to make friends is.

Work, Voluntary work. Walking groups, school, gate, neighbours.

Just wondered if that was in a town or village please? thinking of getting out of the 'old smoke'..

This.

If you don't have small dc, and you don't work, you need to make the effort to meet with people elsewhere.

What do you enjoy doing with your time ?