Would you message?

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I was at a thing last weekend when a woman, I really only know in passing, broke down in tears. She and her family have been going through a horrible time, and she's sharing widely.

She has lots of good people around her and loads of offers of support, but it happened to be me who was closest when she broke down and I gave her a hug and some kind words. She has told "everyone" how brilliant I was, which is not particularly comfortable for me, as I'm not generally a hugger or good Samaritan!

Anyway, I've seen lots of stuff on SM this week that suggests things are still not good, but I know she was hoping for some news this week that hasn't been mentioned.

Would you message and ask? I'm sure she'll be getting loads of messages and when I was in a similar position tbh the messages became a bit of a chore, having to tell people you were doing OK etc.

Sorry I should add, the messages could all be a bit much sometimes but it was good to know people cared/were interested.

How sure are you that they have support?

I was told by a lot of people that they didn't want to bother me when I was having a rough time last year as "I'm sure you have people messaging you all the time and don't need the extra burden".

The end result is that no one reached out to me at all as they all assumed someone else was doing it.

Well, when she posted earlier in the week that she needed someone to pick up DC, she had 3 offers in an hour.

Yeah, quick neutral message to show you (people) care will make her feel better about all the stuff she's going through.

I think if you end your message with “there’s no need to reply if it feels too much” then it gives her the chance not to if she is feeling overwhelmed by life/messages to respond to then that can help

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