WWYD?

[Beardeddragonmum]

Currently I work part time - with one day off each week

My partner has recently been diagnosed with a long term health condition which has rendered him unable to work and has frequent hospital admissions which means I tend to do the lions share of drop offs /pick ups for our DC

2 out of our 3 dc have SEN, one has just started in reception and will be full time from tommorow

I have been successful in applying for a role which would be, to me , a large salary (in the the region of £40k) but the role is full time - they are open to negotiation but effectively there will be a minimum of one day per month I need to go into the office in London - I live in the South West and it would add approximately 6 hours to my day travelling there and back

Part of me really wants to take this role as my earnings would mean I could potentially be able to get a mortgage in the longer term however, I am concerned about how my partner will manage to do all the drops offs (3 different schools and using 3 different breakfast/after school clubs ) more so if he is having a flare up which renders him bedbound

Just wanted to gauge what others would do in this situation or has anyone been in a similar situation? I don't know what to do for the best but I need to respond to the potential new employer by next Tuesday!

Congrats on the job offer. I think you should do all you can to take it, it sounds like a great opportunity for improved financial stability for you and your family, which with DP's inability to work must feel like a Godsend.

Is DP's condition liable to improve with treatment/lifestyle changes? Or is there pain medication he could help to manage the pain etc?

Do you have family or friends who could help with drop offs/pick ups in a crisis? Or could you employ someone to do so on a casual basis? Would your partner be better able to cope if he uses Uber rather than walking/public transport on any mornings the pain was bad (just for example)?

Ia it only the once a month in London that worries you. I am sure a workaround must be possible for one day a month......

Realistically, it is important DP tries to find ways to manage his condition, not just because of school drop offs but for his own mental health and for the wellbeing of the family unit - if he is entirely dependant on you and unable to help at all, I do worry for you - you already have many responsibilities. And he must feel awful about it too.....

do they qualify for school transport?

www.gov.uk/apply-school-transport-for-child-with-special-educational-needs-sen

It's unlikely to improve and can be triggered by a simple shift in mood which causes debilitating issues

I know you are right, and it feels heavy carrying this weight of being responsible for all the family finances but I think I'm going to go for it and just keep telling myself of the longer term benefits

I've spoken to a couple of my close friends and they and their parents would gladly help out if I needed the DC to be collected if DP is unable to so that is a weight lifted

I dont think my children meet the criteria sadly