Anyone else have a friend like this?

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A little while back I realised I had a friend that I actually didn’t like very much and had nothing in common with her. She is no longer a part of my life and I don’t miss her either. A lovely relief of not having to try to keep up with her. Anyone else had a similar situation?

Yes. It is like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I didn't realise how exhausted I was in the friendship.

No, because I recognise quickly that I dot like most people and have very few friends.

No, likewise I realise quickly if I don't like someone.

Just out of interest, what was it about her you didn't like?

Nope, I'm very choosy and don't have many close friends but the ones that I do have are the best - they're the ones I would always drop everything for if they needed it. They've been there for me in tough times too. I have lots of acquaintances that I'm friendly with but I've never had a friend that I've not liked or admired. Have you just grown apart do you think?

Kind of. Most people I don’t like I realise quite soon and don’t become friends with in the first place.

There are a couple though who I have ended up being friends with because we were once part of the same friendship group and still have mutual friends, but if it weren’t for the mutual friends we would have lost touch years ago and I wouldn’t have missed them.

That's quite sad. Good friends are priceless though I admit, they are hard to find

@Pollqueen indeed good friends are absolutely priceless, and I have a few excellent ones. Once I’m friends with you I’ll do anything for you. I’m always amazed at how other people make friends quickly, but then walk away from the same friends just as quickly. I’m certainly not sad about having a few friends I trust rather than socialising with a whole load of people who might let me down.

Totally grown apart. When we were friends, it was pre children and divorces. We were thrown together recently and I realised quite quickly we had absolutely nothing in common anymore and in fact I found myself forever struggling to keep up. It’s a massive relief not to have to bother anymore and my family actually noticed I’m calmer now and much more what will be will be attitude, instead of trying to force myself to be and do stuff that’s not me.

Do you think your friend misses you OP?