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Neighbour starts thrusting me joking from behind

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Summerflower076 · 09/09/2025 18:53

Hi all, this sound's silly because i laugh it off but my neighbour we started hanging out years ago but got distant but lately talk again hes very needy says i should be mire reliable etc and i always cancel plans. But he's a bit to needy he thrusts himself up against me as if we were having intercourse i laugh and say stop but he them days ddi u like that its all playful with him but im starting to think is it right

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ScarletWitchM · 09/09/2025 19:28

You need to set clear boundaries- I know this can be hard for you as you are neurodivergent and it can be hard to understand social responses. But you need to tell him that you like him as a friend but your not interested in any relationships and would rather he didn’t talk to you or touch you like that any more. If he has a problem with that or doesn’t stop you will have to start ignoring him completely

ilovebagpuss · 09/09/2025 19:30

You need to say no and please stop doing or messaging sexual things. If you can't say it in person message it to him and say that all communication needs to now stop as you have taken advice and feel he is harassing you.
Then block him and avoid the shop. Look to move if that's possible in the longer term.

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Summerflower076 · 09/09/2025 20:39

Thanks all, i live just me and my son tje shop is a convience as its only next door but yes he did message yesterday saying do u miss me touching you etc i didn't respond but seem him in shop he treated me to some bits and helps me out sometimes but i have to help him or go places with him in order to have a treat. But today he just said ill get that

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Friendlygingercat · 09/09/2025 20:43

I would suggest a "word" from a burly male friend or relative if you have one. Along the lines of "This is a friendly warning ..... but if I have to come back and see you again I wont be so friendly next time." It will probably scare the life out of him.

Done it a couple of times in the past with pushy male neighbours who drew their horns in bigtime and barely spoke to me after that.

WalkingaroundJardine · 09/09/2025 20:57

Summerflower076 · 09/09/2025 20:39

Thanks all, i live just me and my son tje shop is a convience as its only next door but yes he did message yesterday saying do u miss me touching you etc i didn't respond but seem him in shop he treated me to some bits and helps me out sometimes but i have to help him or go places with him in order to have a treat. But today he just said ill get that

I would stop going to the shop and avoid him completely. He obviously just thinks of you as someone to take advantage of for easy sex and you don’t want a man like that around your son.
If he asks you why, just tell him you have no time for a relationship and your son is your priority.

WessexPrincess · 09/09/2025 21:01

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 09/09/2025 19:03

Do you work in Parliament?

🤣🤣

DeeKitch · 09/09/2025 21:05

Tell him if he’s after a pegging you know a guy who’ll do him - as a joke - then “not pleasant is it?”

x

RampantIvy · 09/09/2025 21:07

I think you are sending him mixed messages. By laughing at him you are encouraging him. The messages he sends you are horrible and maybe you don't realise what an awful man he is. His behaviour is disgusting and he is taking advantage of your vulnerability.

Block his number and avoid him.

ChaToilLeam · 09/09/2025 21:09

He is a creep and a sex pest and pushing himself
on you because he sees you are vulnerable. Tell
him to stop messaging you and tell him to stop
the next time he starts dry humping you. He's vile.

Lavender14 · 09/09/2025 21:10

Do you have a social worker/support worker op?

He sounds likes he's trying to exploit you and it isn't okay. The things he's giving you aren't gifts they're a means of coercing you into other things you aren't comfortable with.

Is there a friend or someone who you trust in real life who you can talk to about this?

fatphalange · 09/09/2025 21:14

Wtf.
Do not ever be alone with this man. Stop agreeing to meet him and then backing out. Just don’t agree in the first place. Stop worrying about what ‘conflict’ might be caused by you challenging him on sexually assaulting you. A bit of ‘conflict’ might not be a bad thing here if it means he ends up leaving you alone as a result of it.

TalulahJP · 09/09/2025 21:20

That man is a rapist in the making. If youu give an inch he will take a mile. Steer clear of him. Hes looking fur an excuse to Si things he wants to do that you dont.

whitewineandsun · 09/09/2025 21:22

Lavender14 · 09/09/2025 21:10

Do you have a social worker/support worker op?

He sounds likes he's trying to exploit you and it isn't okay. The things he's giving you aren't gifts they're a means of coercing you into other things you aren't comfortable with.

Is there a friend or someone who you trust in real life who you can talk to about this?

This is honestly so upsetting to read. I second the above post.

Catmummy21 · 09/09/2025 21:24

He is not a friend, he is a predatory pervert.

Do you have a social worker? Or another person you can rely on to look out for you? You need to tell somebody about this behaviour, it is not OK.

BlueEyedBogWitch · 09/09/2025 21:27

OP, this is completely wrong of him.
If you have a social worker or support worker, you must tell them. Otherwise tell a trusted friend or family member.
Invest in a rape alarm, and if he does it again after being told to stop, set it off.
Don’t accept any more gifts, and if you see him coming, cross the street. And never, ever, let him into your home.

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 09/09/2025 21:27

Either phone Women's Aid for support and advice to get this disgusting creature out of your life or talk to adult social services.

Stop using the shop next door, make shopping lists and get everything you need from elsewhere. Order a delivery weekly if you struggle going to large stores.

Studyunder · 09/09/2025 21:28

WTF! This is NEVER ok behaviour. Grey rock and avoid forever

Terrribletwos · 09/09/2025 21:32

Summerflower076 · 09/09/2025 20:39

Thanks all, i live just me and my son tje shop is a convience as its only next door but yes he did message yesterday saying do u miss me touching you etc i didn't respond but seem him in shop he treated me to some bits and helps me out sometimes but i have to help him or go places with him in order to have a treat. But today he just said ill get that

He is a horrible sex pest and is using you.
From what you have written you sound very vulnerable and unable to stick up for yourself. Why do you have to use this shop and why can't you block him on your phone? Are you scared of him?

ClaredeBear · 09/09/2025 21:54

You’ve got to be joking. I wouldn’t be mixing with this person.

Lavender14 · 10/09/2025 00:08

Also op if you feel unsafe to say to him directly (and I would do it with another adult you trust present) that he is making you uncomfortable and you want him to stop and leave you alone then you can absolutely go to police and ask for help with this because it is harassment. And op, he knows it. He will try to down play it and make you doubt yourself, but he knows. He is not a good person and you need to try to avoid him as much as possible.

PestoHoliday · 10/09/2025 00:10

This is sexual assault.

MarxistMags · 10/09/2025 00:30

Time for you to be firm.

  1. Block him from your phone. Keep away from him.
  2. Tell him to stop doing the humping thing as it is not funny and he is being offensive to you.
3.Try not to use his shop. 4.Do you have a brother, or male friend, that could have a very strong word with him.
  1. Keep away from him as much as possible. He's not really a friend and you are not his friend.
6, you could ask somebody, a Minister, a police person or a friend to speak to this man saying all this unwanted attention is making you very uncomfortable.
Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 10/09/2025 00:39

And how did he react when you kicked him in the balls?

MarxistMags · 10/09/2025 00:49

If you begin to feel frightened, then phone the Police right away.
Don't take any free things from him, say you have been advised by friends not to do this.

BauhausOfEliott · 10/09/2025 01:16

You sound extremely vulnerable and this man is essentially sexually abusing you.

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