Hi, I am in need of some advice about a situation I am in please.
So to start off I will tell a little bit about me..
6 years ago in 2019 I went through a serious thing where my sons father who I was no longer in a relationship with forced his way into my home and attacked me, he stabbed me over 30 times infront of our 7 year old(at the time) son. My son saved my life that night by throwing things at his dad and giving us chance to lock ourselves in the bathroom. I had to go through nealy being stabbed to death infront of My son and a trial where I had to attend court and he was sentenced to 24 years for attempted murder. Me and my son are both still today doing weekly therapy and both suffer from p.t.s.d and other mental problems as a result of what happend. This attack happend after I was trapped in an abusive relationship with him for 8 years. Anyway I started seeing my current partner Daniel in 2021, I already knew him and we had been speaking for a while through the lock down. Daniel was married but separated and going through a divorce. I knew it was going to be messy getting involved with a man that was going through a separation and a divorce while he had 4 children with his ex wife. Ages 9, 11, 13 and 15. But he was 100% already separated and a divorce had been started before we got involved. After what I went through I felt like I owed it to myself to be happy finally with this lovely man who made me feel safe and loved. So we got together just before his divorce was final. Ino I maybe should of waited untill it already was but they had been separated and living apart for a while. Its now coming up to 5 years on.. we have a baby together who is 14 months old. For the full time I've been with Daniel we have put up with constant abuse and harrasment from his ex wife. His kids all had a great relationship with him and me but when I fell pregnant his ex wife told me herself she will make sure my baby isn't accepted and she will make our lives hell. Then over a couple of months all his children stopped talking to him and became very aggressive and saying we have done and said things to there mam which we never did so my only thought is she's turned the kids against us on purpose. So now he has no relationship with his kids and they don't have a relationship with there baby sibling. So anyway my problem is Daniels mother she is close with his ex wife and she has never accepted me from the start. She says I am the reason they didn't fix there marriage and blames me for braking up the family. She made it clear I wasn't allowed in her street or near her house, she would never forgive me and I am nothing but a slag. When Daniel told his parents we were having a baby his mother ignored him and told all his kids and ex wife and all his family members that this baby is absolutely nothing to do with her or her family and it's not her grandchild and she even wanted to change her surname so the baby wouldn't be associated with her. That's what she said while I was around 3 months pregnant. She has spent the last year still telling people I'm a slag and I control Daniel and won't let him see her and I won't let her see the baby. When in fact Daniel stopped talking to his mother after what she said about our baby and because she wouldn't stop calling me aswell. I've never spoken to her or acted back at her I've kept myself out of any arguments or drama but still I am getting trouble off his mother. She is telling the family that she's asked me and Daniel lots of times if she can meet the baby and we have been saying no. When the truth is she has never asked any of us once. Daniel has met up with her when our baby was around 10 months old to try sort things out with her where she said she was going to apologise to me for what she said about our baby and try make things right. Which she has never done. We have messages where Daniel has asked her 4 times if she would like to sort things out be civil with each other so she can meet the baby she's read and ignored each message. She is still to this day blaming me saying I won't allow her to meet the baby when we have tried to communicate with her 5 times throughout the year and been ignored each time. There was a family wedding last week daniels brother got married so we attended with our baby, Daniels mother was there so we thought we would show everyone we arnt the problem so we took the baby over to his mother to introduce them where his mother started shouting at me so I asked nicely please stop shouting at me infront of my baby I've just tried to be nice and introduce you to your grandchild. She carried on shouting and screaming at me that I'm a slag and she will never accept me so we left the wedding and went home. I would like some advice about this.. she has said now that she wants relationship with my baby but nothing to do with me. Am I in the wrong for saying No? I don't trust her after what she said to begin with, her continuos lies throughout the year. Ignored our offers to meet the baby and then verbally attacking me infront of the baby. I've said no I don't want her involved in my babys life I am done trying to be civil with her and it shouldn't be me chasing her for a relationship with her grandchild. Please tell me if I'm in the wrong or if you understand me 😔 after everything I've been through all the abuse I am finally free from and still struggling so much mentally I am finally happy I a loving relationship I refuse to put up with more abuse and lies off his mother. I've been the bigger person and been civil and tried to get her to meet her grandchild and she wouldn't. So now she's decided she wants to after 14 months why should I agree to this . Thanks