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London67 · 07/09/2025 11:36

A work colleague set up a private group and one work colleague was left out ..It was set up for a night out .One person isn’t being asked to go ? Seems harsh to me ant thoughts ?

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SeptemberNCing · 07/09/2025 11:44

Was it a work night out or a night out with those who work together?

OutingHobbyWife · 07/09/2025 11:49

Maybe the person had already been asked and declined to go? No need to be in a group for arrangements etc then.

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London67 · 07/09/2025 12:28

SeptemberNCing · 07/09/2025 11:44

Was it a work night out or a night out with those who work together?

Night out with work colleagues one person left out

OP posts:
FuzzyWolf · 07/09/2025 12:39

Were they left out because they had declined going out or hadn’t provided their phone number (potential GDPR issue if they didn’t want to go and their phone number was used after being sourced from work)?

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London67 · 07/09/2025 13:04

No they were not invited

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FuzzyWolf · 07/09/2025 13:06

Then it probably comes under your company’s bullying policy so I would think carefully about how involved you want to be with the WhatsApp group.

hideawayforever · 07/09/2025 14:30

I wouldn't want to be part of that group.

Crinkle77 · 07/09/2025 17:49

We're you the one left out OP?

washinwashoutrepeat · 07/09/2025 18:12

I would leave that group. Unkind to leave just one person out

Mary46 · 07/09/2025 18:20

Yes thats mean. I work with a group of 6 girls and we all included for meetups coffee etc

CarpetKnees · 07/09/2025 21:14

Put in the group

"Oh, Jane doesn't seem to be in the group ??" and see what is said.

If it is something like 'Oh, I didn't think she'd want to be' - you can suggest asking her the same as you were asked
If it is 'We don't want to hang out with her' - then you can deal with that bullying as you see fit.
If it is 'Oh, blimey, I thought I had' you can be glad you've rectified a mistake.

Arlanymor · 07/09/2025 21:14

Were you the one left out OP?

AintNoPunshineWhenShesGone · 07/09/2025 21:17

Unless you were the one left out, you probably need to do as PPs say, and ask if so and so is in the group and if not, why not?

WilfredsPies · 07/09/2025 21:21

If you were the one left out, then fuck them. They’re only people who are paid to do their job in the same location as you. They aren’t your friends.

If it’s not you, then I’d think very carefully whether you want to be involved in a group that would exclude one person. It’s them this week. It’ll be someone else next week.

WilfredsPies · 07/09/2025 21:22

CarpetKnees · 07/09/2025 21:14

Put in the group

"Oh, Jane doesn't seem to be in the group ??" and see what is said.

If it is something like 'Oh, I didn't think she'd want to be' - you can suggest asking her the same as you were asked
If it is 'We don't want to hang out with her' - then you can deal with that bullying as you see fit.
If it is 'Oh, blimey, I thought I had' you can be glad you've rectified a mistake.

This is good advice. It could be a genuine mistake.

MrsHench · 07/09/2025 21:29

Bloody can't stand WhatsApp groups and usually the person who creates it is full of shit, self absorbed and trying to make themselves relevant.

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