social services

[whoboo]

Do the early help people actually help??

I declined their service, but wondering if that was a mistake.

They did for me i guess it depends on why your referred but i git a lot more respite for my Disabled son.

It's a long story but no danger of children being removed etc I thought it would just be stressful but idk, not doing that well tbh.

They can do, does depend a bit on who you were allocated. I’ve been on the referral side getting social services involved and every family has stayed together and seemed to be positive about the help they got, social services also got them up waiting lists for respite care and independent living for young adults with disabilities

Yes, they really can. Take the help.

It does my DC with additional needs was in mainstream which couldn't meet his needs. Back and forth with la for years . I agreed to a child in need due to a deterioration of his behaviour, he's now in a send school, we had a lot of services working together to get him a place. There will be a lot of meetings and visits but i would do it again in a heartbeat.

Led to my son getting counselling and they were able to follow up his autism referral more easily than I could. The caseworker herself I didn't find hugely helpful.

My youngest is almost 16, he's not going to be removed or anything lol. I might have been influenced by the woman not being particularly understanding, she seemed quite fixated by skirting boards.

What’s the issue?

We were refered by CAHMS after I requested ASD assessment for my youngest.

Then went I went to CAHMS 2 months because my older child who has been diagnosed with ASD lost a signifigant amount of weight while in burn out out they said well you have early help involved so they can sort it out. I don’t see them for another month. I doubt they will do anything other than say my parenting isn’t to blame for when I ask again for DD2 to be assessed but who knows maybe they will be able help.

Tbh the kids are not the problem. It's me who needs the help.

Would you be better off with a CMHT referral then for your own MH? Might be more constructive for you.

Possibly yes.

I felt ours was a 'means to an end'. Absolutely waste of time on some fronts because they kept telling me they'd refer to services that were not suitable (Or we'd already been refered and discharged).
I seemed to know more about certain services than them.
For me I needed it to get a referal for asd assessment for two dc and this was the process needed. However I felt they wanted to make problems/suggest inappropriate referrals so I'd decline and then they'd say they'd tried to help.
Young carer dc in our area get an 8 week programme and then are discharged. 2 of my dc couldn't access it because of suspected asd and 1 did access it. I was told I wasn't engaging with the service (that wasn't suitable for dc).
I'm disabled and they felt it would be good for me to access x service who couldn't accommodate my needs therefore I refused as felt it was a waste of everyones time and it was documented as me refusing services offered.
I did however get what I needed two referrals for asd assessment so it helped in the long run.
I do know others who have had great support so id say start the process, you can withdraw at any time. You'll then see if you would get the support you need.

Yes, they were great and massively helped.

I think there can be a bit of naivety about early help. It isn’t really a hand holding service; there are more suitable routes than social services for that. But there’s not much to go off here.

Idk just got terminal shit life syndrome.

I think I might have ASD, might just be awful and socially inept. No idea any more.

What kind of help do you need? Have you been to the GP?

Life with kids can be shit but hopefuly early help can make it easier.

Wish I knew

Not that great at conveying meaning really. Think I waffle my way out of things