I’m so bored

[WhiskyintheJarr]

I have two kids, 11 and 9. Love the bones of them, of course, would do anything for them. I also have a stressful full time job that pretty much owns my soul (but it gives me enough flexibility to pick up kids etc so I don’t want to leave that job because my life is all set up so that it works with the kids, if that makes sense).

I just feel so bored and unfulfilled recently. I know I’m lucky and I should count my blessings. I know this. The kids have been hard work recently and I suspect that’s not helping.

I just feel like my whole life is kids, work, kids, washing, cleaning, cooking, work. That’s it. Then we flop in front of the tv until bedtime. My husband is great and does plenty but I’m just finding it so relentless. I’m not that into tv.

I’m a bit overweight but I just feel so overwhelmed that I don’t know where to start. So overwhelmed and brain-crushingly bored at the same time. I feel like I might have ADHD traits, I don’t know, I can’t seem to get it together it’s like there is so much in my head I feel frozen.

I’m not articulating this well. Can anyone relate to anything I’ve said?

I also have fuck all attention span right now. I have like 5 books that I have started and not finished. I just can’t get through them. I’d love to get back into reading - I used to read all the time until I had my first baby - but I just can’t seem to do it now.

Do you have any other hobbies? Crafting that you can do in the evenings? I totally get you about reading being hard. If I'm stressed I can't read because the noise in my head won't allow me to concentrate on the book and I read and re-read and have no clue what it's about so quit.

I don’t really have time for other hobbies. I work a lot at night. Kids are clingy night owls and go to bed late and if I drag out my cricut machine they’ll never go to bed 😂

The noise in my head. That’s it exactly. It’s also why I’m still awake at 2.30am. Body is tired. Head is going a million miles an hour.

It's hard isn't it? I hear you.
I knit or crochet. My job is quite difficult and stressful but the repetition of crochet is great for calming the mind.
There's actually a book called something like crochet saved my life.

I'm awake because my cat thinks knocking things off shelves in my bedroom at 1am is a good idea 😊

Aw I’ve been trying to teach myself to crochet for years but I just can’t get to grips with it. I do enjoy cross stitch, but I haven’t done one in a while. Maybe I’ll try that again.

I have adhd and I'm very restless in the evening. I have to have some kind of hobby (making felt toys) to distract me in the evening otherwise I feel like I'm going mad

I struggle to sleep sometimes because my brain won't shut up but I have found listening to books really helps .
Could you listen to a book while going out for a walk ?
It will give you a break from your dcs , you get to finish the books you started and it may help a you lose a little weight.

Edited to add ,
If you have he paid for version of Spotify you get 15 hrs per month of free audio books , if not then Audible is about £12 per month .

This is interesting. I am a night owl and if I work at night I am super productive. I could just keep going. Usually my husband comes through after midnight and makes me switch off my laptop (he means well!) but I’m definitely not as productive as that during the day. I’ve never really felt like this restless, bored feeling could be connected to that but it makes a lot of sense.

That's great that you cross stitch it might help.
There's good crochet tutorials on YouTube by Bella coco that start really basic.
I also find when doing it I don't snack because hands need to be clean.

Young kids and the day to day routines can be so hard and it's relentless.
My youngest is currently looking at universities for next year.

Maybe it’s time to get a new hobby as the children are older?

Make yourself do it for six weeks, before you decide if it’s not for you.

Your job, can you ask to branch out into different areas. Make it more interesting?

Maybe. No idea what hobby I’d even do. I have no interests any more.