Always exhausted on a Saturday :(

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My DC has a sports club that they love and it starts at 8am, so we get up at 8am. I drop him off, go for a coffee then do some errands around town and pick him back up and go home. I'm always full of plans for the day but for some reason I am just so exhausted on a Saturday even though I do get up at the same time several times a week, I never normally feel so bad. I slept ok last night but I just feel grumpy and washed out and its' the same every week. It's like the getting up and going out early just wipes me out. I work from home, always have. I didn't feel anywhere near as bad when I took them to another activity previously which started at 11am.

I just feel now that every saturday I am just white knuckling though and not really enjoying it at all and I just can't be bothered with any plans or anything nice. I do tend to feel a lot better on the Sunday after a bit of a lie in.

Obviously there isn't much I can do about it as DC needs to go to his club but I just wondered if anyone else had this and if they had any solution?

OMG op I seriously say down to write the same post.

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OP - I have learnt over many years, that I really really need taht one day a week where I don't have to get up early and get moving. It's not even about sleeping in - it's about just moving at a slower pace. What happens on Sunday? Do you get a bit of a break then at all?

I am assumign you're a single parent as you don't reference your DS' dad? So is it possible to do a swap with another family where one week you take the kids and one week another family does? Then at least you can get up, get him ready, but not rush to get ready yourself.

I just declined a badly needed hair appointment at 8am on a Saturday. I can't do it and it's not worth how shit I will feel or the rest of the weekend and, frankly, the week.

I work Monday to Friday full time, get up at 6am those days. Youngest still wakes once some nights. Manage to get through the week ok but find it hard to get motivated Friday evening. Saturday I have a million things I need to do but instead I have no energy, want to cry ( did this morning) , the kids drive me mental and we end up getting very little done. I'm not too bad if we manage to get out on a day out. Sundays aren't much better. I'm OK by Monday again

@MageQueen Yeah its just me and We do take it easy on Sunday, even that extra few hours is enough to recharge me a bit. I'm not sure I could ask anyone to do that for me. I wouldn't mind if I could come home, have a nap and then feel refreshed but I never feel right on a saturday anymore. In a few years they'll be more independent but for now this is it I think!

@whereisit1 Yeah I'm sitting here my eye is twitching and I need to get going but my body is in shutdown it feels. I used to love weekends!

I personally prefer to have this slower day on a Saturday too. But I've worked hard to train myself to see it as being irrelevant if it's saturday or sunday. I definitely find that knowing in advance that Saturday is an early start helps - so I can sort of get to Friday, knowing that I've got one more day to get through vs thinking on Friday I'm at the end of the week then getting a surprise because it turns out DH is working and I'm doing the early morning dance class that week.... yes DH has form for forgetting to mention this to me

So if you can get your head aroudn the idea of Saturday being another "working" day, you might find it easier. I appreciate this is easier said than done! But I definitely have found if I can go into Friday without letting myself feel that "friday feeling" its easier.

@MageQueen I get what you are saying and yes it is like that but even if my brain is willing i.e. plans to do things my body and energy levels are just not with the programme. Its just a shame that I'm not really enjoying Saturday night dinner or movie night with DC as I'm just so exhausted, it just makes me a bit sad.

I hope it will get better as the kids get older.

What do you do once you get home? Are you trying to get stuff done or do you allow yourself to rest?
I struggle with fatigue but have learnt that if I rest for a bit (and try not to feel guilty about not doing stuff) that actually I have more energy to get stuff done afterwards. e.g. I need to go out and run some errands now, but having done something else I’ve actually sat down for an hour first. The only difference is that I’m sitting down first, rather than afterwards.

@zebrapig Thats the issue, I try to rest and have a nap but I don't have any energy or feel any better after. My overwhelming feeling is that the day is just a right off and I just need to get though it until I can get to bed and get some sleep. I pretty much always feel better come Sunday or if the DC's club is off and we lie in a bit longer on the Saturday, I'm fine.

Can you bring them home after the club and go for an afternoon nap, actually in bed, while they watch a film or something? Not sure of ages so how self sufficient they would be.

@PullTheBricksDown I do do that but it isn't helping unfortuantely.