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Advice needed please for DD 19

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Happyface246 · 06/09/2025 08:20

My dd has just finished her first year at uni which is a couple of hours away so she is on campus. She has not found it easy making friends but likes the course. She isn’t someone who drinks or goes out much. She has just broken down in tears saying that she was sexually assaulted one night on campus at the club on site - she did drink that night in order to fit it. She took herself to a walk in clinic the next day and didn’t tell anyone, then didn’t go to lectures/couldn’t get out of bed as she was afraid that she would see him again. My dd wants to quit this uni and have a year out. She has said that she might go to another uni further down the line but doesn’t want to go back to this one. We will support whatever decision she makes but any advice please.

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Aquickturn · 06/09/2025 08:21

How long ago?

Id be packing up the car instead of on mumsnet to go and see her

Happyface246 · 06/09/2025 08:28

She is with me at home as first year has finished. This happened a couple of months ago but she has told me about it today.

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Aquickturn · 06/09/2025 08:29

Happyface246 · 06/09/2025 08:28

She is with me at home as first year has finished. This happened a couple of months ago but she has told me about it today.

When is she due back?

Happyface246 · 06/09/2025 08:38

She is due back in 3 weeks

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Aquickturn · 06/09/2025 08:39

Your daughter has told you what she needs to do
you need to support that
you also need to report to the university asap what’s happened
and does your daughter know who assaulted her?

Pedallleur · 06/09/2025 08:41

Does she know him? Needs to be reported to Student services. She may not be the only one this has happened to or may happen to in the new year. It's not her fault, don't quit! Predators are everywhere not at that one place as many are on here will tell you.

Happyface246 · 06/09/2025 08:54

She says she doesn’t know him, he isn’t on her course, she’s not sure if she would recognise him but is worried in case she does

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Aquickturn · 06/09/2025 08:55

Happyface246 · 06/09/2025 08:54

She says she doesn’t know him, he isn’t on her course, she’s not sure if she would recognise him but is worried in case she does

I suspect she does know op
but she doesn’t quite have the strength as yet to tell you, because it will come with consequences

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