Fed up of being the driver 🤷‍♀️

[Birdy1982]

Light hearted post …

As am not particularly fussed about drinking and have come to the realisation that I haven’t even been in some friends cars ! Example last weekend was at an event 2 miles away - took me an hour & over 20 miles to get back 😡

This week have arrangements for a fun day out … Couple of hundred miles / 3 hour round trip - confirmed still going ahead. I haven’t offered to drive & it’s radio silence on the timings & I know this is because there is an expectation I will message saying what time I will pick up

Don’t want to drive / fed up of driving - have been in the friends car once in prob 20 years. Similar age / car types - they do drive regularly on motorway so it’s not that.

Question is how long do I hold out on them suggesting they drive or just cut to the quick and say btw 🤣🤣🤣

Its an irk - they are a good friend & I know they would be expecting they pay for parking or lunch so it’s not about sharing cost.

it’s the bloody principle am just fed up of being taxi 😡

Be upfront. Say “How about someone else does the driving this time?”. You don’t have to elaborate as to why, or make excuses.

Just ask what time are you picking me up?

I’d just get in touch. Hi friend I seem to always do the driving so I think it would be fair if you drove this weekend. Assuming that’s fine with you let me know what time you will be picking me up.
(As an aside, if I were going somewhere 2 miles away, no way would I agree to drop offs causing an 18 mile detour - just say sorry, that’s not in my direction / too far out of my way)

Sorry I thought you were talking about a group of friends. Is it just one friend? My advice still stands though - “Hey do you fancy driving for a change?”.

Head it off now, say what time are you picking me up? Then if they say I thought you were driving you can say I thought it was your turn to do it. You can always pretend that someone else needs your car or it is playing up and you don't want to risk it.

Stick to your guns. It’s become a habit to rely on you. Maybe post something like ‘ Morning. I drove last weekend so happy to go in whoever’s car this weekend. Looking forward to seeing you all.’

Just ask what time are they picking you up.

Be up front. They may think you actually want to drive. I have a friend who absolutely hates being a passenger, even with her DH.

2nd easiest thing to message saying what time we leaving and you ok to drive
Easiest would be to suck it up just fancy a day off !
Last weekend was more a situation getting shown home safely - but that meant driving past other houses. They sat on the dog blankets after a wet muddy day tho - couldn’t be arsed to take them out 🤣🤣🤣