How do I get LOADS done?

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like everyone else, I’m juggling lots of different things - job, setting up small business, elderly parents, teens, house renovations, and the usual housework family etc.
can I please get some tips off you organized people?
I try lists and calendars etc, but im really struggling to not get into more of a muddle, and to switch brains - being patient with elderlies is a very different mindset to dealing with all the pieces involved in setting up a small business- and it’s getting smaller as I find I’m getting muddled. I also find a couple of hours with elderlies and I need to recover and recharge- my brain just dies. By the end of the day I’m exhausted but don’t feel like I’ve moved forward.
please help me be efficient!

I'd recommend Dr Sarah Nicholls on Youtube - she's got loads of videos on being organised and making life easier.

She's very watchable.

Erm. You are doing too much? Genuinely. Stop trying to do everything at once. You will be way more efficient and less stressed and will sleep better and be able to get more done. What can you outsource? I had someone help me with house renovations it was a godsend.

If your getting muddled then you need to drop things as your simply trying to do more than your able too.

agree re not trying to do absolutely everything.Its hard to give tips without knowing about how you are handling things and the moment.
Prioritise: what must be done each day? For example, your kitchen and bathroom need to be hygenically clean, but a bit of dust in the lounge won’t hurt for another day.
What are the teens doing to help? How old are they? Do you have a partner?
What are doing for the elderly people you mention?
Do you meal plan/batch cook?
What is your laundry schedule?
what exactly are the renovations?
Apologies for all the questions but hard to help without a bit more info

Thanks.
DH kicking off because I need to look after his dad, and my suggestion of two hours a day isn’t enough. I’m also getting told off because I haven’t sorted son out for college ( I have) or set up payments for his rent ( I will tomorrow when he gets keys). There’s more, but I feel like whatever i do is the wrong thing and I should have done the other thing. He also kicks off about me in front of son which is embarrassing and will make son feel he’s in the way I imagine.
It will all change next week, son escapes to college, I get to look after his dad and be a crap housewife. I work part time and do my own freelance as well, I run the house. I’m trying to push my freelance as it’s important to me - I’m fed up with being seen as a housewife. His sister who views me as a housewife and has been pretty patronizing, is coming to visit us and her father and although her father asked me to help him sort out his paperwork ( think years of old leaflets, as well as sorting out council tax, insurance etc) she’s texted to tell me to leave sorting out his paperwork to her and I can make a list of things that I think she can sort out with him. Oh I can work out everything that needs doing and make a list for her can I? No please, no thanks for looking after her dad for nearly a year. I may be a bit fed up, can you tell?!
how do I handle this?!

So: the goal would be to stop looking after your FIL and stop renovation work on the house IMO. Prioritise supporting your son and your ability to earn. Do you like your DH? It doesn’t sound like it. What is keeping you in the marriage? It influences how you manage this crunch time.

Deactivate your mumsnet account for a start

Why is FIL your responsibility? Why isn't DH and SIL looking after him? Likewise sorting out DS college/rent?

You work part time
You work freelance, which presumably brings in an income, rather than being a hobby?

All the domestic stuff on top of that is equally your DHs responsibility so he doesn't get to 'kick off' if you don't do it according to his expectations.

Yet again, this is not about you doing more, it's about everyone doing their share.

This is a shit marriage op

that’s the issue

God they sound dreadful op. Well stop helping out with fil and tell your dh that you are rapidly running out of patience with him too!

It sounds like your DH is being completely unreasonable. I would refuse to look after his dad at all if he continues to treat you like this.