Hi everyone,
I got on to Mumsnet by mistake, I don't usually spend much time on the internet. But I've read some stuff here that bothers me, and I want to reach out to suggest an alternative way of thinking. I've seen quite a lot of posts about "entitlement" that are all about judging others, and some encouraging people to act selfish or mean, or gloating at others' problems.
Are you interested in living a happy life? Would you like to connect deeply to the people around you?
Here's a suggestion.
Did you know that humans have lots of wonderful inbuilt qualities and powers?
Try making a program for yourself to be a better you - more giving, more calm, more thoughtful. Not for some greater good, but to give yourself the greatest gifts. People who try this gain:
- Happiness
- True relationships
- Not feeling like the world is out to get them
- The lovely feeling of being surrounded by nice people (because you open your eyes to the good)
- A feeling of dignity and nobility
I suggest making a program for yourself. Try it for 2 weeks - what do you have to lose?
- Once a day, do a kindness for someone who doesn't deserve it. Don't do it bitterly. Don't do it for their sake. Do it for yourself, because you are becoming more giving. Someone took your seat? This will be your chance. Let them enjoy it and you find a different one.
- Once a week, spend a moment being grateful. Feel grateful to the bus driver for driving you, even though he is being paid. Or think about how your parents fed you when you were a baby. You don't have to act on it. Just think about it for a moment, because you are on the path to being a nicer person.
Note: I'm not talking about being a doormat, or not having boundaries. A giving person knows when to say no, and what their limits are, not out of anger or selfishness, but from a place of self respect. But in your quest to stand up for your rights, how zealous must you be?
Enjoy the results, and good luck to you all 😀