How does your partner suggest a cuddle?

[Saucysally]

Mine has just come into the room, commented on how we’d better put the smoke alarmS up then given me a raised eyebrow and mentioned that teen is out ( but could be home anytime soon).
apparantly this means I need to immediately leap out of my clothes and get jiggly with it
. I don’t think he gets that occasional cuddles and compliments would be nice rather than ‘where’s the..what’s for dinner..’
I sort of cringe inside. How do I not cringe, and get to the point where I want to get together?
if it’s relevant, I’m 62, bits are dangling from wierd places and I’m on letrazole which I believe squashes any desire. Edited to say, I don’t want to offend him, but I really can’t just get to it at the drop of a hat. It feels like just another chore.
help!

To be fair he’s keen clearly if the teen is cramping your style and sex life. Go for it, and then during pillow talk have a chat about how better to communicate in day to day life. Sometimes just going for it can get you in the mood.

Are you talking about a cuddle or are you talking about sex? Because if the latter and you're unable to talk openly about sex that's probably half the problem.

We've not had sex for six years. But plenty of cuddles. No suggestions just doing it.

Cuddles or sex?

There's a big difference.

He puts his arms round me.

Read up on spontaneous vs responsive desire, you’re completely normal to not want it at the drop of a hat (and so is your husband for being the opposite) it’s a common mismatch but there are ways to make sure both your needs are met

That’s just it though. His approach is putting OP off and making her not want to do it. I’m not sure that her forcing herself to do it like a chore is a healthy thing. I think the talk would have to come first!

Thank you!
dryshampoofordays haven’t heard of that, I’ll read up.
Sex, he doesn’t do cuddles. When I go for a hug it’s wierd, like he’s holding back. It’s not a ‘hug’ if that makes sense. I guess we just need an overhaul. it’s just not that much fun.
There’s a set pattern of moves, And often he shuts his eyes and it feels like I’m not there. He just sorts himself out.
what do other people do? Asking for a friend 😉