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Token shop bought cake for kids party?

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Firstholiday · 29/08/2025 19:49

Hi all,

We are doing a party at a venue which is now saying they don't allow people to eat their own cake on site. So ive organised for kids to take home small cakes. However I want to have a token one to cut which isn't expensive but looks kid friendly. Any ideas? Ill buy a cake topper online to go with.

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LittlleMy · 29/08/2025 21:10

NewWin · 29/08/2025 20:58

This reminds me of the party where the mum brought out a lovely, massive, professional looking cake. We're talking multiple tiers, fondant footballs and goals, a football field made of icing, the works. We sang, there were candles, it was whisked off to be (we assumed) cut up and put into party bags.

Only no cake made it into the bags 🫩 there was a little packaged fairy cake in each bag, but not THE cake. The kids noticed. There were tears in the car ride home. We all pretended agreed she must have forgotten, but to the kids it was next level tragedy 😂

So, @Firstholiday - just think about what expectations you're setting!

Edited

lol in that case, the ‘show cake’ needs to be plainer than the one OPs already ordered for the kids! 😅

Also, I wish OP would explain logic behind needing a show cake at all? I don’t see why the kids can’t just sing happy birthday and they just let off poppers or something as if the venue doesn’t even allow own cake/food probably for some sort of H&S then they’re unlikely to surely allow candles so what’s the point of just cutting one cake slice? And that’s assuming the venue don’t mind OP bringing a knife in? All a bit fussy too me. And then as you said it’s not really managing expectations v well for any overly invested kids!

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Firstholiday · 29/08/2025 21:59

Hey, sorry all for the confusion! I want a cake for DD to cut/sing, and ill end up taking that home. Ive paid for individual cakes, wrapped, for the children to take home. I just wanted a nice looking shop bought one that looks nice and that I can stick a cake topper on.

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OwlsR · 29/08/2025 22:34

Think an actual cake may lead to disappointment. The whole idea of cutting or blowing out candles is you then eat it or get a piece. Best put a candle on one of the little ones Or just sing happy birthday and then have the cutting a bigger cake and candles at home, not at the party.

Blarn · 30/08/2025 07:50

NewWin · 29/08/2025 20:58

This reminds me of the party where the mum brought out a lovely, massive, professional looking cake. We're talking multiple tiers, fondant footballs and goals, a football field made of icing, the works. We sang, there were candles, it was whisked off to be (we assumed) cut up and put into party bags.

Only no cake made it into the bags 🫩 there was a little packaged fairy cake in each bag, but not THE cake. The kids noticed. There were tears in the car ride home. We all pretended agreed she must have forgotten, but to the kids it was next level tragedy 😂

So, @Firstholiday - just think about what expectations you're setting!

Edited

Yes! Dd2 went to a party when she wa quite small, not quite three and they had a massive Frozen cake. All I heard all the way home was, "Mummy, where is the Elsa cake?" as her party bag had a lovely fairy cake but no wodge of the amazing multi-tired one which was sliced into!

Eta: just stick some candles on the cupcakes on a tray then pop them into the party bags.

DiscoBob · 30/08/2025 09:42

2dogsandabudgie · 29/08/2025 20:37

I don't think she's allowed to cut into the cake, as the venue won't let them eat it, although I am a bit confused.

OP why are the children allowed to take small cakes hone but not a slice of an actual birthday cake?

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If they can't cut it then just make, buy or rent a fake one. But yeah, it is a bit confusing isn't it?

TheRealMagic · 30/08/2025 09:47

Firstholiday · 29/08/2025 21:59

Hey, sorry all for the confusion! I want a cake for DD to cut/sing, and ill end up taking that home. Ive paid for individual cakes, wrapped, for the children to take home. I just wanted a nice looking shop bought one that looks nice and that I can stick a cake topper on.

Just put a candle in a plate of the individual cakes. It is weird and rude to have a party, display a cake and then not actually give any to the guests.

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Firstholiday · 30/08/2025 14:16

@2dogsandabudgie they could have taken the birthday cake home but i then opted to get them nicer, packaged cupcakes in the party bags so it was easier. They just aren't allowed to eat anything brought in externally, on site.

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2dogsandabudgie · 30/08/2025 17:38

Firstholiday · 30/08/2025 14:16

@2dogsandabudgie they could have taken the birthday cake home but i then opted to get them nicer, packaged cupcakes in the party bags so it was easier. They just aren't allowed to eat anything brought in externally, on site.

In that case I would put the cup cakes on a cake tier stand and decorate the stand with ribbon or whatever and have a candle on one of the cakes on the top stand. Someone did this at a party my daughter went to and it looked really lovely. That way you won't have disappointed children wondering why they didn't get a slice of birthday cake.

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