“Stop crying!”

[Chiavennasca]

just a bit of a rant but you know what really pisses me off

if my 7yo DS cries (about anything - fell over, getting in trouble, hurts himself etc) my DH instant go to is “stop crying.” He’ll give him about 30 seconds grace and then starts the stop crying parade.

then I shout at my DH, telling him nobody in the history of the world ever has stopped instantly crying because someone else told them to

really annoys me!! Other than this I have no complaints about his parenting but this one really grinds my gears

please share what pisses you off about your DH

Agreed! My DH doesn't do this but the first thing my MIL used to say when one of my DC fell over and hurt themselves was "you're fine, it was nothing!" I don't know... maybe that kind of psychology works but I'd be really pissed off if I stubbed my toe and instead of asking if I was ok, I was just told "you're fine!" 🤨

At 7 years old I would be encouraging your child to stop crying too, at least in the examples you provide. Falling over and crying at 7 unless it is a big fall?
Also crying when he gets into trouble is quite a manipulative tactic which your child should not be encouraged to do. Why don’t you both as parents work on the resilience of your child?

'Stop crying' is in the same league as 'calm down'. Worse than useless.

If someone feels hurt, and their way of expressing it, is to cry, then my response is to acknowledge it, and offer support or comfort, until they feel ready to move on. Usually doesn't take long!