It’s my birthday and I’m having an of of sulk, help me turn it around.

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It’s my birthday today and despite having my family around me, I’m in a bit of downer.

I can’t really pinpoint why, it’s not an age thing and everyone is trying hard to get me out of it (promise not normally a diva 😅) I think a combination of a really busy work week, last week straight into an even busier weekend and bank holiday Monday with DC hobby’s, the house is absolutely up-side down and nobody really having a plan there is a lot of “what would you like to do” from DH and I just feel in all the head luggage we carry around mad women day to day it’s not really my job to work out something nice to do for my birthday. That been said they are trying and my eldest daughter has just came as I was pegging out washing, given me hug and said she feels rotten this is how we are spending my birthday.

So how do I turn it around, dinner is out, their is 5 of us and literally just out last week to celebrate exam results and it cost us a small fortune, DH and I agreed that we will go out for a nice lunch next week, after pay day, just the two of us. I am considering a trip to Waitrose, a treat for us! Pick up something nice for dinner and stop somewhere nice on the way back for a glass of wine with a sea view and then movie and snacks with the DC later.

What would you choose to do, what would you cook to brighten your day and how do your turn your mood around when in funk.

I have been..

tried to let it go for the morning but realised it was making my mood even worse so turned on my usual rallying mode and me and the DC had a couple of power hours.

I am considering a trip to Waitrose, a treat for us! Pick up something nice for dinner and stop somewhere nice on the way back for a glass of wine with a sea view and then movie and snacks with the DC later.

This sounds pretty much perfect OP! Hope you get your mojo back soon. The sea view should help 🌞 and also just knowing they all want you to have a special day. What your DD said was very sweet. My birthday goes completely unnoticed (including by me), but that's probably because I am 193 years old!

Life is better after an ice cream with a flake! Walking around a park or on the sea front, it always tastes better.

Why isn't DH doing power hours?

Waitrose and sea view sounds lovely, a hot bubbly bath with a glass of wine whilst your DH takes charge of DC and dinner.

It's hard, I feel like that sometimes. Do a big scream into a pillow, listen to your favourite song and start thinking about what nice food you want for dinner.

Unfortunately (avoided adding this to my OP as didn’t want to sound like an unsympathetic dick, but he has just announced that he has bought a new electric saw at £80 and had the cheek to add a chirpy Happy Birthday, so being a dick is fair game) DH has really done his back in and while I know he is very uncomfortable he was not stopped talking about, moaning, grumpily, rolling about on a foam roller, crawling about on all fours and generally just making the day all about him.

Oh it does sound like a very pedestrian way to spend a birthday but they can’t all be perfect I suppose.

I would cheer myself up by phoning an old friend for a chat, and forcing everyone to play my favourite board game. Oh and I’d buy nice cheese, pickles and olives and a bar of dark chocolate for myself.

Does your dh need the saw? If not really then I’d simply say “send it back, we didn’t agree to it and we’ve no money to spare.”

if my dh was in so much pain he is crawling around on all fours, I would be quite worried! Do you doubt how much pain he’s in? I guess he didn’t choose to get injured on your birthday…

It’s my birthday too! DS and I are spending it on the sofa together slobbing out, eating, playing games, watching our favourite tv shows and it’s perfect. Our holiday abroad was a let down so this is all I fancy doing. My mantra is to expect nothing’ for supposedly special days after feeling deflated so many times by how things turned out. From one Virgo to another, happy birthday.

It’s sciatica, it’s sore but he’s not on deaths door and it’s not affected his sarcasm, beer drinking skills or apparent shopping habit!