Think he’s married or with someone

[pinenuts75]

I’ve been messaging a guy for about two weeks now on WhatsApp, he asked to swap numbers I agreed, but I’ve noticed his messaging is very sporadic, and he hasn’t asked to meet up, which I find unusual as most of them want to meet up straight away, take last night we were messaging back and forth and today nothing, I know I could message him and it’s bank holiday so he may have been out all day, but something is telling me somethings not right, not sure whether to ask him if he would like to meet up? See what his response is.

I thought that too about whether he has children.

are you not overthinking this? Or you have too many expectations?

you have messaged a guy for 2 weeks. This is getting to know you. He is not attached to his phone so could be busy, working, with friends or watching tv. You think he may be with someone as he doesn’t respond quickly? He could be with someone or just shy.

he could be waiting on you to ask him out or hint you want to go out. Text tone can be hard to understand.

basically you don’t know what his situation is. Either take it as face value and ask him out. Or if you think something is off just back off

I’m going to go against the grain here. There’s so many assumptions. He might think it’s best to wait until you suggest meeting up. He might be creative and likes making random stuff. He might be genuinely rubbish at replying to messages (I am!). If you want to meet up, then stop waiting for him and ask him yourself. Then see what happens.

Agree! He could have easily suggested a meet up. Strange he would choose crafting over a date when he’s actively looking.

He has a daughter who’s 12, maybe she used to play with it and he’s just kept it.

I messaged him last night saying we could have met up today, he came back with “well I was going to ask but didn’t as you was with your son and your birthday is coming up”
my son fell off his motorbike a week ago, I went to see him Sunday, he’s doing ok and I told him that, I never saw him yesterday, and my birthday is next Monday which I also told him, I can’t help but think he’s making excuses.

He could be thinking the same about you and just doesn't want to get rejected? Why don't you just say that you'd love to meet and suggest a time and place.

Everyone is expecting him to make a stranger his priority on the bank holiday but I wouldn’t have either.

You can’t communicate so it seems dead in the water anyway.

You weren’t very kind in your text in the first place. There’s no point in raising something that “could” have happened. It sounds like a dig at him.

Didn’t mean to be unkind, and I wasn’t having a dig at him at all, that’s not my style I say what I mean.

Well the latest is I asked him if he would like to meet up, he said yes and we agreed tomorrow, he’s messaged today his kids have been with him all week, they are 18 and 20! And will be with him tomorrow, don’t know if it’s just me but surely he could meet me for an afternoon, they are not 5! And he’s seen them all week, I don’t know whether this guy is telling me the truth, shall I move on?

He prefers to be with his children rather than someone he barely knows. That's not unreasonable.

If he genuinely prefers the company of his children, that’s fine, but don’t agree to meet up with someone! So odd to agree to a meet up/date and take 2 grown up children along!

He’s been with them all week, and their not children, we arranged this date in the week.

Sorry I missed he was bringing them on a date.

OP If you want to meet him I'd tell him to wait until he's properly available to meet.

No he wasn’t bringing them on the date lol, his kids have been visiting him for the week, he wasn’t sure for how long apparently, but I just think their 18 and 20, surely one afternoon wouldn’t hurt.