Feel sexy but look opposite

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So went on a family holiday to Italy and honest to god - I look the worst I’ve ever looked or felt in my life. At least 2 stone and 2 sizes heavier than my wedding size (where I was size 8).

I am wearing really nice dresses but honestly I feel like a fat unattractive lump and I’m only 40 so I feel like I’m too young to feel like this

I used to be a 37 year old that looked 31- after two kids and a full time lawyer job - well I dont know what the fuck I am let alone look like

i thought this was post natal - having two kids in the past 5 years - then I thought I was peri menopausal but now I don’t know / I’ve gone from a straight 6/10 to a 1/10 fst lady in 2 years!! And

Anyway I don’t recognise myself anymore - what do I do? I am too slim to go on the ozempic injections apparently

for the sake of my type 2 diabetes risk, my self esteem and my marriage - any advice would be appreciated

Jeezus, don't be so hard on yourself. You're a lawyer and a mum of two? Sounds like you're an over achiever! 👏
Just be sensible with portions, nutrition, exercise and alcohol. Cake and wine are my weaknesses and I've 99% cut out one of them. 😂

If you want to lose weight then go on a calorie deficit and move more. You don’t need injections when you haven’t tried good old fashioned dieting yet.

That's a lot of judgement and drama over being a size 12. 🤔 Surely the only answer here is psychotherapy as to why you think you're a "fat lump" and a "diabetes risk" at a size 12?!

Being a size 12\14 isn't really the end of the world.
Not being able to recognise that whatever your weight, you have so many other qualities is really sad.
No matter what size you are, you must still see lovely qualities that you have within yourself? Focus on those.
Welcome to the world that personality is far more important to the exterior.

This feels like me, also 40, also used to be a toned size 8 and now after two kids in the last three and a half years, feeling a bit fat and frumpy. I’m also not huge, but a stone over my previous weight, and a size bigger, and just flabby. There just doesn’t seem to be time to exercise, with work and kids etc, also I’m just eating sugar and caffeine to get through sometimes.

However I saw a trainer recently who said I need to cut out all sugar and wine etc for three weeks to reset, and massively up the vegetables. High fibre diet with more than half my plate of veg and a variety of whole grains. Then do three workouts a week, even if that is twenty minutes of sprints and push ups while in the park with the kids. I’m just starting, so can’t report on any results, but it’s kind of been a kick up the bum to get sorted.

I'm also sure you looked lovely on your holiday! But I also know what you mean about not looking like you used to

What size are you? You can't be very big if you don't qualify for wli.

Considering you have 2 children and you’re a full time lawyer, OP - I think you’re being really harsh on yourself. Some self-compassion is needed.

For balance, I am 35 y/o and I am a size 10/12 and I have no children. I am sometimes very hard on myself for my age — but society has conditioned that into me. You don’t need to be a size 8 to be sexy.

To work on my self-esteem, I am exercising (doing exercise I enjoy), trying to eat a balanced diet (reducing sugar, caffeine and UPFs), dressing well for my size and body composition and ensuring I look after my hair and skin.

I bet you are a lovely young person , it say you are a size 12 l bet hubby is very proud of you and the children , plus you are a lawyer as well, as a size 12 how can you be a lump ,no way ,ok a small diet maybe but You Should be so proud of yourself , there seems to be a slight lack of self estime lurking about , go to the cupboard get some more self estime so very well done ,

What does 1/10 fst mean??

I ended up in a similar position. I used fasting which really helped. Now I eat smaller portions to keep to where I want to be.

At least 2 stone and 2 sizes heavier than my wedding size (where I was size 8).

I think it's your mind set. Obviously you're bigger than you used to be and understandably you don't like it, I get that. But you're not now hideous, I promise you!

I've just dieted to now be a size 14 and I'm bloody gorgeous (and that's even with another half stone to go) 😆

(I did get diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, that was my kick up the arse.)

Anyway, I'll give you my advice: you don't get to moan about your weight unless you're prepared to do something about it.

metabolism changes as you get older as well, and hormones can be at play.

What type of fasting did you do? Was it intermittent, or a few days of fasting to reset? And was it quickish to see results?

Size 12 is fine!