I’m bored of being just a bit tired and ill -anyone relate

[OwlsR]

a moan - I’m lucky I don’t have people relying on me like children

TL DR I’m exhausted and my BH plans gone - anyone else?

Been stressed these months at work. Just about coping. It’s mental health and I have all the CBT techniques and they work but using them is exhausting.

Supposed to be heading to family yesterday after work and I just couldn’t, coughing and so tired.

This morning cough much better. I thought I was just making it up as i slept well. Went to the station and got my first train of two trains, just short 15 minutes and too tired. If I’d closed my eyes I would’ve fallen asleep. Came back bought easy reheat food and lay in bed listening to podcasts.

I know some exercise helps so I did do the supermarket but not able to do even my normal basic level of getting around.

Anyone else just tired physically or mentally?

It was a running theme that each time I’d visit my parents from uni to a weekend off work, I’d be sick - usually a cough and tiredness, sometimes including headaches and more than once stinking head colds.
It is your body telling you you’re tired - so LISTEN TO IT.
Ready meals are fine (maybe with some extra veg or salad/fruit if you are so inclined); plenty of rest, maybe a pamper bath/shower, whatever makes you feel happiest… and yes if you can go for a walk do so (for pleasure vs for chores). Hoping you have a restful evening- tomorrow is another day!

Thank you @AbzMoz We also had visitors so wouldn’t have been a quiet weekend.
So tired I didn’t post yesterday though I wrote it, not concentrating. Slept well again and will see how it goes. Have church and then nothing which is fine. It fits in a walk just to the bas stop

I used to often feel achy and tired before I realised I was autistic. It was because I wasn’t accommodating my needs as I didn’t know. I’m a lot better now I’ve cut out things that were burning me out and do things in the ways that work for me. Just putting that out there in case it resonates.

Interesting, how did you remedy it to stop the aches and tiredness please ? Might help my situation I'm in ATM.

I'm a LOT tired (exhausted) and unwell and I am very very tired of it.

Tired of not being able to go out for the day
Tired of having to cancel plans because I'm too exhausted
Tired of not being able to do perfectly normal things
Tired of not being able to visit family
Tired of having to plan really carefully for family visits and for them to leave after less than 2 hours because they can see I'm exhausted
Tired of only being able to plan to do things in the morning because I have to rest in the afternoon
Tired of having to sleep after anything stressful. A perfectly normal dental appointment, with no pain, means I have to go home and sleep
Tired of not being able to go anywhere without being dropped off at the door because the walk from the car park exhausts me
Tired of having to sit down in the shower

I changed a single duvet yesterday, and that was it for the day.

Me too. Learning how to pace was a massive game-changer.

Interesting about autism as I have that too. I can cope socially or work if I know how a conversation will go - so drs, helped. Anything when something goes wrong, a broken tap or illness and it’s a different story.

My work has become more that, less straightforward structure in the interaction, more empathy needed. It is a myth people with autism have no empathy, but I find knowing how and when in a conversation to say it hard.

@DilemmaDelilah So sorry the level of your exhaustion and it sounds much more long term and deeper than mine (at least I hope so).

@OwlsR I would strongly recommend reading up on autism and "pacing" - it has made such a massive difference to me and what I can cope with.

There is also a theory emerging that people with autism experience the world in a much more intense way than others - so day to day life in general is much more exhausting as a result. Megan Anna Neff's website is a good place to start - also Neurodivergent Lou on TikTok.

@MysticalPombearits about avoiding burnout so depends on what that is for the individual. For me head phones, avoiding small talk situations, alone time, engaging with my special interest, being clear with people about my communication needs, leaning into routine and planning. Basically just less trying to keep up with neurotypicals and beating myself up when I can’t.

Thanks began to take a look then realised today isn’t a day to try and take stuff in. In bed had to stay awake and alert for a parcel that has just been delivered. Did task I wanted and needed to do now my body and brain can allow the tiredness.

I might keep an eye here or post but I’m sure MN too much save my energy

Hope you understand the second paragraph I know it’s wrong but too tired to rewrite

Thank you and relatable