Older teens and allowance / costs

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Just looking for some experiences to guage what's 'normal'.

My DS is 18 and has had a p/t job since he turned 16. He earns about £550-600 a month. We will continue to provide a roof over his head, pay for all household meals and bills but he has to pay his own phone bill, xbox subscriptions, all clothes and entertainment. It's been like that since he started earning and this feels fair to both parties.

My daughters (13, 16))each get £70 a month for all socialising, frivolous spends, having money to do things. We don't ever top this up - they manage it themselves.

The 16yr old has started babysitting, ad-hoc, nothing regular, but she'll probably earn £200 a month from it. Am now wondering whether we should stop her allowance. She is proactively seeking a regular p/t job too. In some ways it feels unfair to stop the money when it's not a reliable source of income, but I also think earning your oen money and becoming more financially independent is a really important experience.

Basically, when did you stop giving your older kids money? Was there a threshold in terms of what they were bringing in themselves that meant you didn't think you should have to give them more money?

An 18 year old is an adult. I want my children to feel they always have a home with me but I will instil an ethic of being independent above all else. That means they know how to make a living, as everyone needs to. I started work at 15 and left home at 18. Having my own money has been important to me since being 15, and I will encourage mine to work this young also.

My oldest is 11 and has £20/month pocket money with a card and an app so she can understand how money works and how to track and save and spend without running out.

I want them fully self-sufficient by 18 because otherwise the dysfunction will spread into their whole adult lives.

Seems they have a work ethic so it shouldn't be an issue. If they're living at home and working it's my view that they should be financially self-sufficient and saving to move out, whether that be at 20 or 30, they should be responsible with their own money. My money continues going to the house, treats, fun, main meals, and my legacy savings which are for my children.

So I don't envisage my children receiving pocket money at 16 at all.