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Kid's party, why have I done this to myself?

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MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 14:04

So, we moved house 6 weeks ago, obviously still in total chaos, especially as it's coincided with summer holidays and the request to 'play with me' approximately every 30 seconds cutting into sorting anything out.

DS turns 4 and up until now we've done a small garden party at home for close family to celebrate his birthdays. As we've moved (very naice house and area that family and friends have asked to visit) thought we'd combine birthday and housewarming. Kill 2 birds and all.

As of the last 6 months kids at nursery have started inviting each other to parties. My own DS has got more interested in friends and parties, so thought we'd invite nursery kids in addition to family kids and a few kids of friends, plus others for housewarming, which would carry on after. Bit daft as we're now in a different area, kids going off to different schools and we'll never see any of the nursery ones again, but I got caught up in the cuteness of first 'real' party for DS.

All done fairly last minute as move, a family bereavement and DH's work that takes him away overnight a fair bit have put pressures on time and energy.

I've dithered not having DH around much to check out who is invited. Also, loads of dithering between dates as people are away, and trying to accommodate what different family members can do. All my fault as we should have organised it weeks ago and just set a firm date.

I had definitely discussed combo party with DH, in fact I'm fairly sure he suggested it. When we talked about it at the weekend he didn't seem to think housewarming was a good idea and hadn't really asked anyone. In which case, ffs, I could have just planned a softplay for the kids and been done with it.

Invites are out, enough kids seem to be coming to make it, just about, worthwhile. I've booked a bouncy castle as we have a great garden and thought with that, a few garden games and just space to run around it would work. We've had a brilliant summer in the garden so far, playdates have all been a success without too much effort needed. We even have a toilet outdoors in an outbuilding, so no need for them running through the house at all.

Looked at the forecast for the day and it seems it'll be tipping it down. Now wondering whether to book an entertainer as 2 hours in the house with a load of kids seems like hell. So tired at this point of the summer holidays that I cannot summon up the brainpower to think about how it'd need to be organised...probably just throw cake and balloons in a room and lock the door behind me! Also, random people without kids for housewarming element, so there's that too.

Sort of asking what you'd do but also just using mumsnet as a virtual cupboard to have a silent scream in.

Anyway, never again, until next time!

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Beamur · 19/08/2025 14:11

Hire a paddling pool instead and give them buckets and sponges to play with...
Do indoors first - get an entertainer in for an hour, food, then play outside. Get parents to collect from garden - bring towels.
But only if not too cold!!

Beamur · 19/08/2025 14:13

You could play outdoor games that use water - like drip drip drop, target games with water pistols, treasure hunt with little plastic animals all water based - turtles/dolphins etc

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 19/08/2025 14:14

Will the kids’ parents stay? Bouncy council for 4 year olds will need a lot of attention same for a paddling pool tbh.

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Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:16

How many have confirmed they are actually coming?

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:18

I had definitely discussed combo party with DH, in fact I'm fairly sure he suggested it. When we talked about it at the weekend he didn't seem to think housewarming was a good idea and hadn't really asked anyone.

so he hasn’t invited people. Have you? And surely it’s good he hasn’t invited people if very little done by way of prep

when is it?

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:19

Highly doubt you’ll get an entertainer (or at least a decent one) or a bouncy castle at such short notice anyway

m00rfarm · 19/08/2025 14:20

I would absolutely avoid a bouncy castle. There will be lots of crying and screaming and injuries - you will need many people there to check on the kids.

MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 14:29

Yes, did wonder about bouncy castle a bit, just panicked and booked! Parents will be staying though. It's a covered one, so technically could be ok? Although not sure parents will want to stand out in rain! (We have a gazebo we could put up) No money exchanged so easy to cancel.

Originally was going to do a fair theme and have outdoor games, like bean bag toss, hook a duck etc but felt like it would also take lots of supervision and not sure how long it would keep them going, but guess those could come indoors too?

Part of the date dithering was over an entertainer we know who couldn't do certain dates. Last time we spoke he could do the date we have chosen but we decided not to as we had no idea how many kids were coming at that point and seemed a waste if only 2 or 3 turned up! Might ask again, but what's the betting he's booked now?!

So far looks like 10 kids are definitely coming. Mix of ages, 4-8.

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Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:31

Ok so reckon on parents staying

Why are you not pleased DH hasn’t invited more?

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:32

How far is it away op?

Goldbar · 19/08/2025 14:41

How big is the bouncy castle and does it have a roof? If so, it'll probably be fine in the rain. If it's low, you could put a large gazebo over it if you have one or can borrow one from the neighbours.

Personally, I'd just borrow lots and lots of gazebos and put the games under them 😂.

MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 14:42

@Returnofjude he has now invited some family, but turns out they're on holiday. Although he must have mentioned housewarming as other family on his side with kids brought it up, and it's them that threw further date issues into the mix.They' ve rsvp'd 'should be there' so that's helpful...

He'd talked about asking some friends but thought that part of it wasn't on the cards so hadn't. So it's currently nursery friends with parents, family, some with kids and some aunties & uncles, cousins without, and a few friends with kids. Looking at that, I'll just think of it as DS birthday party rather than housewarming, which helps focus in some way!

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MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 14:43

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:32

How far is it away op?

Weekend after next

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Goldbar · 19/08/2025 14:45

Games like giant connect4, jenga, hoopla etc are all very popular if you put a few in the garden. Kids like running around with balloons too. Parents will just be happy if you can make them a cup of coffee/put out a few cold drinks for them.

Don't overthink it - we've been to some very well-organised parties and also some very badly-run ones and the kids have had a ball at them all.

Though the well-run ones didn't destroy the house to the same degree 😂.

My DC's personal favourites are the ones where there's no entertainment and the kids just run riot upstairs and hide under beds from the parents, but I would never, ever host a party like that for obvious reasons...(at one, the kids got out onto a section of flat roof)!

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:49

MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 14:43

Weekend after next

Well I wouldn’t trust the long term forecast that far in advance!!

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:50

MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 14:42

@Returnofjude he has now invited some family, but turns out they're on holiday. Although he must have mentioned housewarming as other family on his side with kids brought it up, and it's them that threw further date issues into the mix.They' ve rsvp'd 'should be there' so that's helpful...

He'd talked about asking some friends but thought that part of it wasn't on the cards so hadn't. So it's currently nursery friends with parents, family, some with kids and some aunties & uncles, cousins without, and a few friends with kids. Looking at that, I'll just think of it as DS birthday party rather than housewarming, which helps focus in some way!

Goodness that’s a big group so good job DH hasn’t been dishing out the invites!!

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:51

If there’s been lots of dithering about the date… have you actually received RSVPs from nursery friends?

KilkennyCats · 19/08/2025 14:54

MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 14:29

Yes, did wonder about bouncy castle a bit, just panicked and booked! Parents will be staying though. It's a covered one, so technically could be ok? Although not sure parents will want to stand out in rain! (We have a gazebo we could put up) No money exchanged so easy to cancel.

Originally was going to do a fair theme and have outdoor games, like bean bag toss, hook a duck etc but felt like it would also take lots of supervision and not sure how long it would keep them going, but guess those could come indoors too?

Part of the date dithering was over an entertainer we know who couldn't do certain dates. Last time we spoke he could do the date we have chosen but we decided not to as we had no idea how many kids were coming at that point and seemed a waste if only 2 or 3 turned up! Might ask again, but what's the betting he's booked now?!

So far looks like 10 kids are definitely coming. Mix of ages, 4-8.

You dithered over dates and when he confirmed one you decided not to go ahead?
It all sounds a bit of a shambles, tbh
Confused
Kids parties aren’t really that difficult?

Thattimeofthenight · 19/08/2025 14:55

Keep the covered bouncy castle, stick up a marquee with some balloons and bunting, and order a load of pizzas to be delivered. Play some music out an open window in your house and let the kids go nuts in the garden. If it does rain just chalk it up to fun memories.

Not sure what the “naiceness” of your house or area have to do with any of it.

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:55

KilkennyCats · 19/08/2025 14:54

You dithered over dates and when he confirmed one you decided not to go ahead?
It all sounds a bit of a shambles, tbh
Confused
Kids parties aren’t really that difficult?

I can’t make head nor tail of it really

MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 17:16

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 14:55

I can’t make head nor tail of it really

Yeah, apologies. I have ADHD so it is all a bit stream of consciousness 😂.

I find MN really useful though, other people who have more organised minds give great suggestions and I find I get a bit of focus from putting the issue down in black and white. Especially at this point in the holidays when my brain is in full on melt mode.

I was trying to get a mutually agreeable date amongst various family members before sending the invite to nursery friends. If I'd thought we were just doing a kids party I'd have done softplay and organised it weeks ago. But it was DH talking about doing it as a housewarming as well, which he then forgets!

DH pointed out it wasn't worth hiring the entertainer for 2 or 3 kids that we knew were definitely coming from family, so we didnt book straight away as had no idea how many would come from nursery, and the cost is the same for however many kids there are. The bouncy castle didn't need a deposit so seemed like a better option, could be cancelled if noone responded, without losing money.

Yes, I don't know how kids parties got so complicated either! It was just some pop, sandwiches and a couple of games of pass the parcel when I was a kid and that was great as far as I remember!

Thanks for the reply.

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KilkennyCats · 19/08/2025 17:21

It’s only complicated because you’re trying to combine a housewarming party with a kids party, op.
It’s a really bad idea.

MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 17:30

Well, yes that's true. But seeing as the housewarming idea has melted, we should be ok now.

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Thattimeofthenight · 19/08/2025 17:30

MrsResponder · 19/08/2025 17:16

Yeah, apologies. I have ADHD so it is all a bit stream of consciousness 😂.

I find MN really useful though, other people who have more organised minds give great suggestions and I find I get a bit of focus from putting the issue down in black and white. Especially at this point in the holidays when my brain is in full on melt mode.

I was trying to get a mutually agreeable date amongst various family members before sending the invite to nursery friends. If I'd thought we were just doing a kids party I'd have done softplay and organised it weeks ago. But it was DH talking about doing it as a housewarming as well, which he then forgets!

DH pointed out it wasn't worth hiring the entertainer for 2 or 3 kids that we knew were definitely coming from family, so we didnt book straight away as had no idea how many would come from nursery, and the cost is the same for however many kids there are. The bouncy castle didn't need a deposit so seemed like a better option, could be cancelled if noone responded, without losing money.

Yes, I don't know how kids parties got so complicated either! It was just some pop, sandwiches and a couple of games of pass the parcel when I was a kid and that was great as far as I remember!

Thanks for the reply.

It’s as complicated as you make it. You’re making it complicated. Honestly, women do this shit to themselves.

ns87 · 19/08/2025 17:39

Watch the Motherland episode with a glass of wine OP!

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