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Late 40s. Do you feel rubbish or okay?

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Hdhdhdfjhf · 19/08/2025 08:41

Sick of feeling sick. I had a bad injury and a chronic health condition developed after which I have to take meds for. I feel like I never feel well or have energy. Wondering how much this is me or how much this is late 40s?

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Hdhdhdfjhf · 29/08/2025 20:57

SmallChild · 29/08/2025 16:31

How are you sleeping on it? They bloating it causes is hard to overcome as is the increased appetite. You have my sympathies op. I presume you are on something for bone density. I truly hope things improve.

Vit D. Should I be on more for bone density?

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SmallChild · 31/08/2025 07:22

Hdhdhdfjhf · 29/08/2025 15:00

Prednisone 5mg. Up to 10/20 with anything that risks a flare. Four years. Taking vit d to hopefully mitigate bone loss.

Prednisone well all steroids blost you and intefer with your sleep. Is there any chance you can wean the dose down. Over time of course. I would be aiming for 2mg by Xmas. They are great drugs, but the side effects brutal. I really wish you the best.

Vinomummyinlockdown · 31/08/2025 08:34

Hello my pred and chronic condition sister! I’m on 23mg a day (have been for 6 years up and down in flares) and I’m 51, peri-meno and have an auto immune condition 🥴🥴🥴 I hear ya!! For me it’s a whole ritual of red light therapy, hyperbaric oxygen, vitamins, now starting collagen as I’m always achey first thing. I walk my dogs but like you the energy and motivation is lacking so the walks become less long or frequent.
I don’t lift weights but I think we should or more weakness will result.
it’s not hard to feel like crap a lot - and I’m reading the responses here for hope 🤞🏼
sleep is vital but obvs not easy with all the health stuff going on. I tend to avoid any other meds and the use of hyperbaric oxygen helped me reverse my bone density issues from steroid use. Walking and vit D / K2 and magnesium are very good for bone density so def stick with that. Working on your nervous system helps loads too. It’s nice to “meet” someone on pred long term as I feel v alone! Weight gain this year has been awful!! I was skinny my whole life and bammmm at 50 with peri it all piled on! Xxx

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IDontHateRainbows · 31/08/2025 08:37

Normally just absolutely knackered but I know why
I was late diagnosed ADHD and take Ritalin in the week, for work, which gives me the energy of a Duracell bunny but by god the crash after!
So im either buzzing like a fridge doing everything at warp speed, or crashed out on my bed in a semi coma.

CreationNat1on · 31/08/2025 08:42

46, Havnt had a period in 4 months, and I m starting to think I ll have to really focus on diet and exercise to maintain any vitality. I m sooo dehydrate. I m drinking lightly daily, so I ll have to cut that out.

I ll have to invest time and energy into my well being, it's not going to run naturally like it did before. When I m really tired I m nauseaus and listless.

ChristmasLightsLover · 31/08/2025 08:42

I haven’t read the thread @Hdhdhdfjhfbut I assume many people will flag perimenopause to you. Try some HRT. See if it helps. It likely won’t “fix you” because in all honesty nothing does. And that’s ok.

We need to all figure out the path forward, as strong and well, physically and mentally, as we can be. You’re not on your own. Well done for being active. I’m only just arriving at the fitness party and am worried about whether I can make up for the lost time!!

ffsgloria · 31/08/2025 08:51

Generally OK but I make a conscious effort to get lots of sleep, exercise every day (including weights), eat well, hardly drink alcohol. Also on HRT which has improved my sleep so much. I do suffer with migraines occasionally and have to watch how much I'm doing, as otherwise I end up in bed for 48 hours. I think at this age we need to be mindful of lots of things!

Nellephant10 · 31/08/2025 12:42

Hand holding and hugs. I've got chronic health conditions, late 40s, on HRT and all kinds of meds, feel like crap all the time - in pain and exhausted and forgetful. I've upped my exercise after relearning how to walk but gets flares. Eat very healthily, no alcohol, plenty of water, sleep hygiene good but...no sleep. 2-3 hours a night if i'm lucky. Really struggle. If you come up with anythinf that helps let me know! Definitely should be on something more than vit D BTW, prob a calcium and Vit D high strength supplement. Worth asking for a Dexa scan early to get a baseline for osteoporosis if steroids are very long term

Slebs · 31/08/2025 15:59

At 50 I'm pretty tired but I had a baby at 46 so it could be that! To be honest this tired now is absolutely nothing compared to the years of tired that went before.

Without going off on too much of a tangent, we eventually went abroad to do ivf and they said I needed to get my TSH levels down before I started (never mentioned in UK) and I immediately felt like a different person. For the first time since puberty I had energy, mind fog lifted and I could exercise and loose weight. I got hypothyroidism diagnosed privately as still not at NHS levels for treatment (it is extraordinarily high to qualify) and was worried for the fetus as had previous miscarriages.

So basically I've felt better since 46 than the previous 3 decades. Mourned them a little but am now so happy thay I've experienced some of what others must have had during that time. Endo keeps asking about peri/menopause. I asked how I'd really know, as all the years of symptoms before thyroid meds sounded similar to what friends are now telling me is perimenopause, he did said, well yes, quite.

So basically, hormones are incredibly powerful things. Get your thyroid checked maybe, although NHS levels are rubbish, so privately if you can. And check out HRT, I will if I start to feel bad again.

Hdhdhdfjhf · 01/09/2025 09:49

Nellephant10 · 31/08/2025 12:42

Hand holding and hugs. I've got chronic health conditions, late 40s, on HRT and all kinds of meds, feel like crap all the time - in pain and exhausted and forgetful. I've upped my exercise after relearning how to walk but gets flares. Eat very healthily, no alcohol, plenty of water, sleep hygiene good but...no sleep. 2-3 hours a night if i'm lucky. Really struggle. If you come up with anythinf that helps let me know! Definitely should be on something more than vit D BTW, prob a calcium and Vit D high strength supplement. Worth asking for a Dexa scan early to get a baseline for osteoporosis if steroids are very long term

So Sorry. Sleep is a major issue for me. Magnesium glycinate seems to help, as does being in bed by 10. Seem to be able to sleep then, if not awake until 2am. Not always possible and sometimes still get horrible insomnia. Trying to prioritize sleep now.

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EvieBB · 11/09/2025 14:48

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 08:42

44 and I feel good, physically very good.

I put it down to loads of walking and yoga

When I was 44 I felt rubbish - I was eventually diagnosed with B12 deficiency (I literally didn't have the energy to walk far or do yoga!). Thankfully the B12 was a godsend.

superstar63 · 12/09/2025 07:45

Slebs · 31/08/2025 15:59

At 50 I'm pretty tired but I had a baby at 46 so it could be that! To be honest this tired now is absolutely nothing compared to the years of tired that went before.

Without going off on too much of a tangent, we eventually went abroad to do ivf and they said I needed to get my TSH levels down before I started (never mentioned in UK) and I immediately felt like a different person. For the first time since puberty I had energy, mind fog lifted and I could exercise and loose weight. I got hypothyroidism diagnosed privately as still not at NHS levels for treatment (it is extraordinarily high to qualify) and was worried for the fetus as had previous miscarriages.

So basically I've felt better since 46 than the previous 3 decades. Mourned them a little but am now so happy thay I've experienced some of what others must have had during that time. Endo keeps asking about peri/menopause. I asked how I'd really know, as all the years of symptoms before thyroid meds sounded similar to what friends are now telling me is perimenopause, he did said, well yes, quite.

So basically, hormones are incredibly powerful things. Get your thyroid checked maybe, although NHS levels are rubbish, so privately if you can. And check out HRT, I will if I start to feel bad again.

@slebs That is interesting about the TSH, can you share what your levels were that the NHS would not treat and what they are after thyroid treatment please?

Slebs · 16/09/2025 01:33

superstar63 · 12/09/2025 07:45

@slebs That is interesting about the TSH, can you share what your levels were that the NHS would not treat and what they are after thyroid treatment please?

They were around 4.5. It's 5 on NHS to get a diagnosis, I believe. My endo said you'd be lucky to get treated before you hit 10 though. Endo & health unlocked board say nearer to 1 is optimal. I'm at 0.1 which is where I feel good and it has stayed pretty stable for the past 5 years or so since I've had treatment.

There must be a level of subjectivity as people can get a subclincal diagnosis if they're at 5 (and up) without symptoms. I had loads of symptoms without, as far as I know, reaching the NHS threshold. From research at the time I discovered that levels for diagnosis vary from country to country. As all prescriptions are free for thyroid patients in UK so I wonder if that may play a role in the underdiagnosis here. I still pay for all my medication as I'm not diagnosed by NHS. I'm also a lot more productive and ill less often, so I'd imagine treating people with hypothyroidism would be an overall win. But what would I know?

somethingnewandexciting · 16/09/2025 01:48

@Slebs having struggled to see an endochrinologist for over 12 months I think it's more the lack of investment in endo's - there's 1 consultant in our half of the county apparently! I think because it's largely seen as a woman problem it's not prioritised. Plus ca change. Roll on gender based healthcare options and Women's Health Hubs I keep hearing about!

Slebs · 16/09/2025 02:02

somethingnewandexciting · 16/09/2025 01:48

@Slebs having struggled to see an endochrinologist for over 12 months I think it's more the lack of investment in endo's - there's 1 consultant in our half of the county apparently! I think because it's largely seen as a woman problem it's not prioritised. Plus ca change. Roll on gender based healthcare options and Women's Health Hubs I keep hearing about!

Yes, wouldn't that be great. If you can afford it try and get a private diagnosis, if you cam travel you can find one elsewhere. The private prescriptions for levo weren't any more expensive, I don't think. My GP would have prescribed anyway, he did the 6 monthly bloods for me, but I'm on NDT now which isn't available on the NHS. That does cost a fair bit, but I'm fortune that I can do it and I'd rather pay to feel well than spend it on anything else. Good luck!

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