Overthinking everything for Yr 7 - any lunch box recommendations?

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Before anyone says it, yes I’m being ridiculous, as the thread says - I am overthinking big time.

my eldest starts secondary school in September, and all I want is for her to slip in to the corridor between lessons completely unnoticed…I want a little sheep, with absolutely nothing that stands out as being something a bully could hook in to.
once she’s there, settled and found her place she can do as she wants, but for now, that’s my plan. And she doesn’t give a shit right now, happy to go along with the current uniform trends etc.

my question is, what lunch boxes do kids use in secondary school? Primary was a cute coloured bento box thing in a lunch box bag, which I’m guessing is out of the question now.
is it just a basic Tupperware box?
happy for any recommendations!

Back away op
suggest she ask her friends going what they’re doing
and then do the same

Carrier bag or the most boring box you can find

I bought this bento style lunchbox, it is excellent and feels very decent quality:

leak proof bento lunch independent compartments bpa - Temu United Kingdom

We used these for a while in early secondary

https://amzn.eu/d/7ldMTJy

soon went to school dinner though - what you put in it is probably up for more debate that the box itself!!

Ordinary Tupperware type box. Ordinary sandwiches / rolls. No Instagram overthinking stuff.

We've been using this one:

Sistema Sistema TO GO Lunch Box Cube Max (Colour May Vary) - ASDA Groceries https://share.google/wBWYzwKf3xNxt9oom

Mine is apparently having pizza for lunch every day in the canteen. If I don't have to get involved I'm happy.

They don't care about this at all. Asking as it's not a kids TV character. Just get a normal lunchbox from the supermarket or use one you already have.

My daughter tells me NO ONE has packed lunches at high school, it's not cool. I imagine like all the secondary school stuff it's totally dependent on the school - do you know anyone with older kids there to ask?

You want “a little sheep?”
What does she want?

Something that doesn't stick out, a simple plain one, sandwich, snacks and a drink, some days he only takes snacks and every Friday he has lunch at school, but the queues can get long and he misses out so I usually stick snacks in as back up.

Plain tupperware style box is what both my DC use/used in secondary school

Mine had Sistema that just fits a sandwich in, then a packet of crisps loose in their bag. They had a plastic water bottle so that if they were bumped whilst drinking they didn't potentially cut their mouth on the stainless steel one they usually used. Again, sistema, just a screw on lid, no straw.

The best thing about secondary is that bullying should be reported and dealt with immediately. There will be details in their planner that they are given so everyone knows what to expect if you are bullied or you choose to bully. Both of my children were targeted and it was dealt with very swiftly and stopped. It was a great school.

Yeah, I want a little sheep.
a few lines down from that I said that she doesn’t give a shit right now - she’s happy to go with the current uniform trends etc.

once she’s there and finds her feet she can do as she pleases. I also said that in my op.

Oh ignore @Wolfiefan

"No-one" in my DD's secondary school takes a packed lunch. If she packs a few snacks they are loose in her bag. Mostly she gets something from the canteen, usually a chocolate brownie then eats properly when she gets home. Make sure you put money on their account or however your school does it so they have this option, it seems to be where the lunchtime socialising happens. I'd keep out of it unless asked for assistance, then buy the specific one they ask for if they do.

Has she been bullied before op or is there any reason to think secondary school will be a struggle?

Give her lunch money then.And let her take what she wants from home in what she wants. Fton what I can gather secondary kids live on pringles, sweets and pizza and loads of fizzy drinks

Secondary school kids don’t use actual lunchboxes. If they only take a packed lunch it’ll be a sandwich and crisps stuffed into rucksack. Mine would take a sandwich which I think they ate on way to school (!) then bought a hot lunch

What like the OP ignores the wishes of their child?
I find it disturbing that this is what you want. We should be aiming to create confident young people who are proud of who they are. Not meek little creatures who hide away.

No, not been bullied before, but she’s extremely shy and not the most confident, mainly because she’s very petite and so if someone did say something to her she would really let it shake her.

also, to be upfront - some of my concern stems from my own background, we never had the ‘right stuff’ growing up because there just wasn’t the money for it, and I can remember how it made me feel. I don’t want her to feel like that.

Thank you, but I was actually after recommendations for lunchboxes, not raising my child.
you seem to have a problem with reading, as I’m not ignoring any wishes, she has none. She’s happy.

water your own grass, and I’ll take onboard the advice from other people about lunch.

Ordinary small plain Tupperware. Mine used to eat lunch at break time, sometimes in classrooms. Something small and easy. Some buy food, paninis at our school, but the queue takes ages.

Oh I understand the worries...fwiw my DD is also a little bit shy but found secondary really much easier than primary in some ways...first few days were tricky but there was a much greater variety and pool of kids to make friends with. Try not to worry too much...it may end up being a lot easier than you expect

Yeah but back in the real world that's an awful lot of pressure for a 12 year old. Her mum is just wanting her through the door without any drama. I'm sure we all have memories of high school of people getting picked on etc and if I could help my daughter to avoid that then I will. Yes it's not ideal but it's reality. When she's in and comfortable and seeing the new norm then she can make her own choices.